A SparkFriend posted the rhetorical question of why she focused so much on her "failures". Well, she's not alone.
Here in the USA, and perhaps many other countries as well, we live in a society where talking about the good things in our lives is considered boastful, whether it be hard-earned achievements or our wonderful (in our eyes) children.
Our news media focuses on the negative because drama equals airtime or front page space. Positive stories are pushed to the back or reduced to 30-second bits, if they appear at all.
In conversation, we compete with our stories of who had the worst day, the most painful injury, the hardest commute, etc. Someone who says, "I had a good day," is generally ignored and focus shifts to the next person with complaints. If someone announces a pregnancy, someone will promptly chime in with how difficult their pregnancy/childbirth was. When a baby is born, someone is sure to tell the new parents just how hard their role is going to be.
People with positive outlooks are disparaged as "Pollyannas", when it really should be considered the highest level compliment.
It doesn't have to be this way!
So the questions that I ask myself when faced with my own negativity or that of others are:
1) What is the value or lesson to be learned from this "bad" experience?
2) How can I focus on the positive in my daily life?
3) How can I express myself positively without stealing someone else's thunder (or thundercloud)?
4) How can I support others in my life in being more positive as well?
SparkFriends, I'd love to hear your answers to these questions.. I truly believe that. together we can change the world. Correction: We ARE changing the world!