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Being a Friend to Myself

Sunday, August 25, 2013

I have put on 5 pounds and am now 8 pounds way from goal. I know Iím not working hard enough and itís showing on the scale (and yesterday, in how my pants fit). I lost 50 pounds with very few struggles with motivation. Now, I canít seem to stop struggling with motivation. I donít feel good physically or mentally. (Seriously, I havenít had clothes in my closet be too tight in 18 months. Itís not a good feeling). I want to get it together and I just canít.

And I found an article here on SP about motivation and it asked a question (well it asked lots of questions but Iím going to answer this one): If someone came to me asking for advice about how to deal with this problem, what would I say to them? Would I tell them itís a lost cause?

Of course not. So why do we say nice things to others and not ourselves? I donít know. But Iím going to break the cycle and Iím going to say all those nice things to ME.

Way to be your own worst enemy, Martha. This is hardly a lost cause. Game plan: focus on what I do right instead of what I do wrong. Every little bit counts and something is always better than nothing. Try taking those most basic baby steps again Ė did I drink all my water, get all my freggies, and 8 hours of sleep? And be kind to myself! Everything else will follow.

Interestingly enough, that really did make me feel better.


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
FUNLOVEN 8/26/2013 8:44AM

    Sometimes just putting it all out there in a blog helps solidify the plan.

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WATERONE 8/26/2013 6:16AM

    emoticon topic and post. We are too often our own worst enemies instead of our best friends. You've accomplished so much. I think we forget that maintenance is often harder than losing when we are fired with enthusiasm and focused on a goal. emoticon because you are emoticon

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MJREIMERS 8/25/2013 9:03PM

    So true! What worked for me was everyday when I looked in the mirror I found one positive thing. Maybe I did my makeup well, my hair looks good, my eyes are bluer with this shirt on, etc.

I'd also look around at my life. I have a great husband, my kids are health and doing well, my pets are a comfort to me, I have a job I like, I talk to my mom almost daily, etc.

Believe it will change the way you think. I now have a much more positive attitude and it makes EVERYTHING better. My little motto is Let go.Be.

Google it. It's a great message and before I had it tattooed on my wrist, I had it on a bracelet. It means let go of the past, let go of the negatives, let go of everything that is "tripping you up." Be in this moment. Be a better mom, wife, human. Be positive. Be YOU!

I hope this helps. I was there, the place I'm at is much better. Take my hand and I'll pull you up so you can Let go. Be!

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FIRYMIST35 8/25/2013 4:38PM

  Try to be nice to yourself! I've found it's always more difficult to lose when you are close to your goal.

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MYUTMOST4HIM 8/25/2013 4:32PM

    I have always said "You have to be your own best friend"!!! I love your attitude emoticon

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