Saturday, August 24, 2013
The gift of a binge starts with finding out what triggers me. My youngest son, who I love & support, and who has Asperger's syndrome, as well as just the stress of being a teenager, well, when he gets stressed, he lashes out at me, and I take it badly, like he doesn't appreciate me and all I sacrifice.
And I thought I had the stress eating under control. But when my most precious child turns against me, It triggered a binge, because I was giving up workouts and such for his benefit, and all for nothing. Or so I thought.
But we had a talk and he said I'm so selfish, thinking it's about me. And I had to set aside my hurt feelings and listen to the message below his sassy attitude. And I tried saying things like, hey I"m sorry you're so stressed out, I hate when that happens too, you'll be ok. And then give him a touch on the arm, hug, pat on the back. He calms down.
So what I learned is that as much as I'm not able to react well to stress, he's even less capable. So I have to pull it together, and set a good example. And we're both going to learn & grow together. And that's the gift.