Acceptance, and new goals...
Thursday, August 22, 2013
I've finally figured out that I can be happy with a weight-loss goal of 1/2 (that's one half, or 0.5; not one or two) pound per week. It's been really hard for me to accept that number, so I've been fighting it, or getting frustrated and giving up. It seems unfair because I am working SO hard for this (when I'm not throwing in the towel and binge-eating) that I felt I should be able to see those high numbers that others do, at least some times. But I can't compare my progress with that of others, because I'm just me. I need to accept the fact that, for me, 1/2 pound per week is success, and it's realistic. I had to fight to get over the idea that I could lose a pound a week if I just worked harder, because I can't do that right now. I CAN lose 1/2 pound *most weeks, and that's a darn sight better than gaining anything at all.
The grandchildren came and went, but they're coming back for x-mas. I'm trying to talk my younger daughter, the one with the baby, into coming with the two older grand kids, but I don't think she will. Can't say that I blame her, she'd be stuck with three kids and all the luggage to take care of. Anyway, I've set a goal to lose 10 pounds by the time they come back. That's four months, so just 2# per month, or 1/2 pound per week - perfect! And since it's doable, I should actually finally be able to reach a goal. The weekly goals will be harder to track, since it's hard to be certain of half a pound on the scale. I mean, sure you can read it, but it's likely to change several times over the course of the day. Maybe I can weigh bi-weekly and count every pound lost as a mini goal. Or monthly and aim for 2 pounds.
I think that the attitude regarding weight loss has changed significantly through the years; at least for someone as old as I am. I remember the days when we were cautioned not to lose weight too fast, or we'd end up with loose, sagging skin hanging off our bones. (That's when girls, or women, were also warned about "bulking up" with exercise, so we just starved ourselves, lol.) These days, what with "reality" shows such as "The Biggest Loser" or "Extreme Weight Loss", we have become programmed to believe that we should be able to lose 10 or more pounds per week, with the right program. Between that and the fact that the rate of weight-loss (stomach staples, lap bands, etc) and/or cosmetic surgery is increasing exponentially makes it easy to lose sight of the reality of our own personal situations. I do watch those shows for the motivation they provide. I was always well aware of the truth that my situation is far different from what I was watching...but somehow I allowed myself to become negatively affected anyway. And I thought I was a grown-up! Sheesh.