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RE: Finding It Hard To, Ask For Help, When You Need, It Is Very, Very Hard.


Wednesday, August 21, 2013

RE: Finding it hard, to ask for help, when you need, it is very, very hard which, in my case is what i am going thru at this very moment in time.

This being the case when i cut both my arms with a pair of scissors, aka (Self Harm) as i have already explained i did this to help me cope with what was going on at home etc etc etc.

Not because i wanted to die, as this is not what i want to happen at all, as my Family, Friends & all my Online Family this means all of you my (Sparkpeople Family).

As i know that i would be sadly missed by all of you, i am getting the help that i need, thru the care team at A & E aka Grantham Hospital.

I am glad to say that i have not cut myself for a few weeks, & i am hoping that this progress will continue, so that i will never ever have such unhappy thoughts about hurting myself again.

Whatever happens with all my Councelling sessions, i will certainly keep you all updated, & let you all know how i am doing, so that you will not be worried about me.

As i know from your replies, to my Blogs that i have written, that many of you are very very concerned for me, & you all want me to get better again, which is what i want for myself 2. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
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DONNAKOVAC 9/26/2013 8:51AM

    Hoping that you are still making progress towards a healthier and happier life. (((((((hugs!))))))) I don't know all you've been through, but I know what I have been through, I wouldn't wish on anyone. One day at a time. You are not alone, you are loved for who you are and I'm so glad that you posted, not just so that we can encourage you but also so others know they also are not alone.

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KALLIE1958AR 9/5/2013 1:26PM

    I know how you feel for along time I would not ask for help but now I have learned to ask .. we are here for you emoticon

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SUGARSMOM2 9/3/2013 12:20PM

  honey If you need help then by all means cry out for it . or better yet scream for help . if you want to take something sharp to yourself then please come here and post your pain . we are all here we can listen and try to help . the very least we can do is listen . we may not know how to help but we can listen and then say I care about you want only the best for you . no more self pain . I am all ears . talk to me .

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TOKIEMOON 8/27/2013 5:07PM

    Asking for help is difficult for me too. But please reach out to those near you when you feel thoughts of self-harm. You do have many Sparkers who care about you as well. Keep writing about your feelings. emoticon emoticon

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FRIDA11 8/25/2013 3:56AM

    Please ask your friends and family for help and advices.
2 of the people I knew who committed suicide were friends during many years -
I feel anger that neither they or their family asked for help -
They were people that always were willing to give help.
I guess it was a question of pride not to ask for help.

One of them I hadnīt seen for a couple of years because of an argument. I did not know she was sick. The other lived far away (7 hours drive)
When I visited him and his family (wife and 2 children) they always pretended everything was OK. He hanged himself.
What I want to say is Please DO TALK WITH YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY
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ZMICHE 8/24/2013 7:25PM

    Just stopping by to leave some emoticon . I am currently dealing with cutting so your blog caught my eye. I know what its like, glad you are getting help. emoticon

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OHMEMEME 8/23/2013 7:33AM

    Just know that without even knowing you, I feel compassion and concern. You deserve to be well. God loves you and me alike. I extend his love to you. I know a cutter who has been recovered for 8 years. This is possible for you. You are headed in the right direction. Best wishes to you and may God bless you. emoticon

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MJREIMERS 8/23/2013 7:21AM

    Just work on getting better. You have a lot of support here and you know how much people care about you. I'm glad you realize how important you are to many!! emoticon

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ALEXSGIRL1 8/23/2013 5:15AM

    wishing you happiness and emoticon

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CAROLYN1ALASKA 8/23/2013 1:50AM

    Sounds like you are doing better.
emoticon Just work on taking tiny steps at first, and eventually it will get easier.

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MCJULIEO 8/23/2013 1:47AM

    Sending you a hug from Texas (so you know it's a really BIG hug)...

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CAMEY13 8/22/2013 7:16PM

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GREEN-EYED-LADY 8/22/2013 4:13PM

    Know that God Loves You. You can talk to Him anytime, anywhere. You are in my prayers. emoticon

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PATTYKLAVER 8/22/2013 8:57AM

    I can tell in how you are writing that you are doing a little better. You haven't cut yourself in a couple weeks. People around you are listening to what you are saying. You're doing it! Don't forget that we are always here to listen. Hugs and good thoughts are being sent your way.

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GRETCHMAMA 8/22/2013 8:57AM

    When I found out my daughter was cutting I was besides myself, and automatically thought she would eventually kill herself (which wasn't the case at all). After almost two years of regular counseling and the help of friends and family I finally feel like she wouldn't act on any urge to cut again. It is a long and difficult road, but it can be done! My thoughts and prayers are with you!

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MSLZZY 8/22/2013 7:06AM

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SOXYINMO 8/22/2013 6:41AM

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Big hugs! Self-harm is an awful burden, but your strength in recognizing you need help in your struggles and then not only seeking that help, but sharing your story with us, is an inspiration to all of us who suffer.

Peace,
Shannon>

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NANCYPAT1 8/22/2013 6:23AM

    Glad you are getting help and YES, asking and even just accepting help can be difficult. Have a truly blessed day today.

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FISHER011 8/21/2013 11:32PM

    Bless you!
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Debbie

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DOVESEYES 8/21/2013 11:00PM

    emoticon emoticon glad you are keeping in touch, you are doing great.

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AWESOMECHELZ 8/21/2013 10:01PM

    God bless you and I hope you continue to improve. emoticon emoticon emoticon
Love, Chelsea emoticon

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NPA4LOSS 8/21/2013 9:42PM

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XNANNY 8/21/2013 8:38PM

    I hope that you are finding it possible to be happy again. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JUST_BRENDA 8/21/2013 6:41PM

    You are so smart to choose counselling to help process the emotional pain you are feeling. Counselling can make a huge difference in your quality of life.
Not everything will go well, and you should learn tools to help you cope. cutting is not in your options anymore. There are much more effective ways of dealing with tough feelings. You can do this! and you'll never regret it!
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MORTICIAADDAMS 8/21/2013 5:44PM

    We do want the best for you. I know you want help and the counselors have the skills to accomplish that. Stay with it.

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GARDENSFORLIFE 8/21/2013 4:57PM

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GRACEOMALLEY 8/21/2013 4:42PM

    i am so happy for you that you have the inteligence and good sense to seek help. I wish you nothing but positive progress and good things, which I truly believe you will find and accomplish. Believe you can do whatever you need to do for a long and happy future.
Big hugs -
Debi

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THRIVE2DAY 8/21/2013 4:18PM

    Pray without ceasing. emoticon emoticon emoticon


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ANGRITTER 8/21/2013 3:08PM

    Definitely continue with counseling and just go to the hospital if you ever feel like that again. They will knock you out and you won't ever think about hurting yourself again. They might keep you a couple of days, though... so be prepared.

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RENATA144 8/21/2013 2:52PM

  Dear One, find creative ways to express your feelings - Art, poetry, theatre, Dance. Please Love yourself & please protect your beautiful God - given body. emoticon emoticon emoticon
Thank you for sharing your testimony with us.

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JTREMBATH 8/21/2013 2:46PM

    Hope you are getting all the help you need and hopping it continues god bless emoticon

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CTUPTON 8/21/2013 2:40PM

    Sparkpeople are great listeners and also many have experience to help you hang in there when things are tough. chris emoticon

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KAB7801 8/21/2013 2:25PM

    Good going with treatment!
I'm hear for you! emoticon

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BESTMEPOSSIBLE 8/21/2013 1:39PM

    It is excellent that you have found a treatment team and you are participating in treatment. That is really critical for you to continue. With the support of family and friends you will meet your goal and beat your self-harm impulses.

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ASIAM62 8/21/2013 1:25PM

    Glad you are getting help. Asking for help when you need it is hard and you are very brave to share your story. You are an inspiration!

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KNYAGENYA 8/21/2013 1:24PM

    Congrats! You can do it...I have faith in you.

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STARTINGOVER37 8/21/2013 1:03PM

    emoticon Good job on getting help. We are here for you!

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DAWNO64 8/21/2013 12:43PM

    Wow, good for you for getting the help you need! I know it can't have been easy for you, but it shows just how strong you are!

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BARB4HEALTH 8/21/2013 12:42PM

    emoticon You are precious in His sight. Glad you reached out for help.

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COUTURELADY 8/21/2013 12:39PM

    Great job getting help. Please know that we are thinking of you and sending support and love!

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JANISMKW 8/21/2013 12:25PM

    emoticon emoticon Dear Melanie, I can hear that you are in great pain. It is hard to ask for help but I'm glad you are finding professional help and reaching out to this community. Please believe things will get better and take loving care of yourself.
I don't know if you are a believer, but God loves you more than you love yourself. emoticon

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DANLIN60 8/21/2013 11:17AM

    Don't give up on getting the help that you need, everyone does care for you, that is what we are all about.

Hugs

Danlin

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FITGRANDMA120 8/21/2013 11:11AM

    Glad to hear your getting help. I know you don't want to kill yourself. Be careful it does not turn into Munchausen

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SEATTLE58 8/21/2013 11:03AM

    I'm so glad that you're getting help and I'm sending lots of hugs!

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ALIHIKES 8/21/2013 10:55AM

    I am so glad you are getting counseling, and I am sending you my sincere wishes for your recovery and health. emoticon

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SNOWMAIDEN 8/21/2013 10:47AM

    Sounds like you're making great progress! Keep going sweetie!

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DR1939 8/21/2013 10:46AM

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KELLIEBEAN 8/21/2013 10:46AM

    I'm glad you are getting help. I had a family member that went through this. Therapy really does help. Keep at it!

Keep us updated. We are all with you in spirit!

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WHYNOTJ1 8/21/2013 10:24AM

    You are taking great steps in moving forward with your life. I wish you all the best!

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PROUD-GRANDMA 8/21/2013 10:21AM

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