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Tuesday, August 20, 2013

While in La. I heard a fable that has stuck with me and really it brings me to where I am today. I call it the fable of the naked truth. this is how it goes.

One day truth and lie went down to Lake Pontchartrain, it is a hot day so they go skinny dipping. After some time Truth realizes that Lie has left the water. When Truth gets out of the water Lie has stolen his clothes and is running down the street so Truth takes after him the chase is on. Truth finally catches Lie . The moral here is that a well dressed lie is caught by the naked truth.

How does this apply to my journey? In the past I always tried to loose weight so people would like me. So my husband would think I was prettier so that my children was proud of me. I walked around smiling saying all the most perfect things that made everyone happy. As I lay on that couch suffering I thought of this fable and decided that in order to do this to do what I needed I had to become completely naked on the inside. I had to become honest with me strip myself of the emotional baggage that others held over me.

That is the one thing that no one had ever say to do. I have been to weight loss groups. I have done the programs . I smiled but i never felt different and I never truly dealt with things. It doesnt take therapist to tell you that as an obese person you have been hurt and ridiculed. It doesnt take a therapist to tell you that because of it you are little damaged and for me any way I had to heal that damage before I could have true success in what i wanted. When the world laughed at me I laughed back and then the world was confused. And all the sudden I realized they dont like it when you laugh at yourself so one day I asked why not that answer is easy really because it really isnt funny. And those that laughed finally knew it wasnt funny.

Earlier I read a blog where someone stated that they are good the way they are but they just want to be the best they can be for the ones that love them. What is the best you can be for the one that love you ? Are you not already the best you can be? When you read through the comments on my blogs and if you talk to people who truly know they all will use the same word to describe me that is Honest.

I am not putting my self through what i do for anyone but me. And i want you to know that is alright to do just for you as a matter of fact I cant think of a better reason. The people that love me will still love me att 166 or at 366 that doesnt change. They will still know i am strong at any weight. However what they know now is that I love myself enough to whatever it takes to make me healthier and happier. We each have our own paths to walk. I wasnt happy inside because i had a well dressed lie but when i found the naked truth then I was able to change.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
HOLLYM48 8/22/2013 5:12PM

    I am so glad that you found the true reason, that you are good enough and that you can do it just for you. That is awesome and I want to be happy and healthy for me. The benefits certainly pour over onto others and to other parts of your life, but you are the important one to do it all for!

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SUNFLOWERGIRL79 8/21/2013 8:58AM


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MOMMABOF7 8/21/2013 6:55AM

    AWESOME thoughts!

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E1SPAG 8/20/2013 10:13PM

  Great thoughts and you said it well! Congratulations on your realization and good luck! Ellen

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WILDKAT781 8/20/2013 8:53PM


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JOURNEY1986 8/20/2013 8:26PM

    Every day I try to tell myself a truth - something that I overlooked, or hid, or ignored to make myself feel better or to fit in.

Great message!


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BETHICANFLY 8/20/2013 6:52PM

    Doing this for yourself is about the only way to succeed long term. At least that's been my experience. I always love your blogs and this time was no different!! I love that fable. I had never heard it before, but I can just hear a Cajun saying. Love it!!

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NJPRINCESS9091 8/20/2013 5:33PM

    Wow! That was a great post. The truth always exposes a lie! Healing from the inside is the real start of our journey and it seems to be the hardest part. Eating right or going to the gym are wonderful but it will not bring us happiness if we feel awful on the inside. Have a great day!!!

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POPSY190 8/20/2013 4:45PM

    That's a powerful message and an essential one for everyone. Thank you.

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SALLYLEE84 8/20/2013 4:29PM

    WOW! I love this entry, it's very profound and I agree with you 100%. Thank you for taking the time to share! emoticon emoticon

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WIZKEY 8/20/2013 3:48PM

    I so agree with you, Darlene!! I gained and lost weight quite a few times, but it wasn't until I dealt with the fear and anger that were leading me to "comfort food" that I was able to start taking the weight off for good!! Emotional healing is a big part of our journey!! emoticon

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