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Minor Frustrations, Staying on Track

Tuesday, August 20, 2013

Well this has been a week of minor frustrations. My main goal this week is to not let the frustrations derail me from my overall fitness and wellness activities.

1. My septic drain field is failing. The problem was discovered last week when I had the tank drained; system is backed up. I had the drain field repaired about 5 years ago. I don’t know yet whether I need a more extensive repair or to replace the whole system. I would prefer to repair the system, because at some point the city will put in sewers to our neighborhood. Drain field repair will cost probably $2,400 minimum; or over $6,000 if they have to remove my driveway and landscaping (lines run under the paved driveway). Cost of a new septic system (sand filter, elevated) is even higher ($25,000 - $40,000 depending on what the city requires) and I do NOT want a raised septic tank by my front entry (the current tank is buried under the driveway directly to the left of my front door). Redoing the plumbing if the tank is moved will raise the costs even higher.

2. My kitchen and bath remodel plans are on hold and will be canceled if I have to get the entire new septic system.
3. Mom seemed lonely and depressed when I called her. She had previously complained to my sister that I called too frequently, so I cut back on my calls; then she became lonely and misses me. I guess it just depends on how she is feeling.
4. The stress levels led me to need a relaxation pill to be able to sleep last night (full dose).

To top off all my frustrations – I have been doing REALLY well on my exercise and diet for the past two months. But I am not seeing results on the scale and in fact, the dial on the scale rolled in the wrong direction by 3 pounds.

So I am deliberately trying to refocus myself on the positives. And to NOT let myself lapse into unhealthy habits. My positives are:
1. I am looking better, and I can fit into the pink dress that didn’t fit me 2 months ago
2. My acid reflux and stomach problems are MUCH better
3. I have kept to my pledge of no rich desserts/no alcohol very well. Not perfect! But one minor lapse for an entire month is MAJOR success for me
4. I have an emergency fund and I can fund the septic system repair, or even replace it if I have to
5. I have a preapproved homeowners equity line of credit that I have never used
6. I will sell my old coffee table plus two guitars to raise additional cash. I just feel better if I do something to add to the funds.

Finally -- This is a stretch of time where I need to complete a number of necessary but difficult tasks for my employer. I am being successful at slowly working my way through these requirements. Sometimes work is easy and rewarding; other times you have to plug away at it. I’m plugging away and NOT GETTING MIRED DOWN! That’s success!
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  • KAREN608
    Sorry your drain field is failing.

    4 years ago in order to buy this run down place we had to put in a new septic tank and drain field as there was none and the laws changed. $7500...

    We are careful not to put anything but water into our system, hoping it lasts longer.
    We did have a sewer backup in the basement but it was actually a minor thing: a big of old metal drain pipe that is encased in the cement came loose, and plugged a drain in the tank... a friend carefully moved it with a long plastic plumbing pipe and all was fine after that!

    Living in the country has expenses people in town do not think about.
    1669 days ago
    Boy... If it isn't one thing it's another, it seems. Septic field is definitely something you didn't need at this point. Considering all that's going on, I think you're doing great.
    When is your cruise? You must be looking forward to the break. Take a deep breath and just do what you can, one day at a time.
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    1670 days ago
    Keep pushing! It sounds like you have your hands full. Hang in there and try not to lose sight of all the positive that surrounds you. Keep smiling!
    1670 days ago
    I love the way you can always think through your problems, assess everything, accentuate the positive and come up with a plan! You do very well with all that life throws your way, and you have the right to be proud of yourself. Hang in there and keep on keeping on.

    1670 days ago
    You are getting to where I am ....just nothing happening on the scale. More up than down. It can be frustrating to say the least. You are doing the right thing, focusing on the positive and keeping at it. Nothing would come out of just giving up and going back to square one for any of us! Eating away our stress does not help either...been there done that many times. It just delays any forward progress and makes me feel terrible for doing it!
    I am sorry your septic system is acting up and Wow-that would be expensive to replace! We used to live in the country for 19 years and had a septic system...glad we got out when we did! Now I wish I wasn't a homeowner now, since our AC just broke down last month and cost us $1000 to repair! I shiver to think what could happen next! Our funds just keep dwindling and can't get back on track with our savings, because things keep happening one after the other. Like needing a new set of tires for our car! emoticon
    Hang in there...hope things get better for you soon. Thanks for your very nice comment on my blog!! Meant a lot to me!! emoticon

    1670 days ago
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