Not Fitting In
Monday, August 19, 2013
We went to a BBQ Saturday night at my Boyfriend's friend's house. I get along well with most of his friends, except there is one couple that never makes me feel welcome.
The girl is nice to me when my boyfriend is around, but shoots me dirty looks, rolls her eyes at me, won't talk to me and is just a general B to me. Her husband, who is the alpha male of the group, does things to instigate.
For example, he says things like "Why won't you let him have a motorcycle"?
I think I finally set him straight on that! That he doesn't have a motorcycle because of me, he doesn't have one because he is too cheap to buy one. Then he tells stories about the times when they used to go out and get drunk. Honestly speaking... I don't want to hear those stories.
First, I can't relate to any of them. Most of them take place in preppy bars that I wouldn't be caught dead in. I don't find any of it funny because I wasn't there and it just sounds stupid to me.
Second, I don't care to hear some of the stories, especially ones that take place in some sleazy strip club. It just isn't stuff that you talk about in front of someone's girlfriend.
He seems to talk about things he knows get under my skin. I can see he does it to try to cause a fight between us, and honestly he usually succeeds at it.
So yeah --
Of course I am always on the defense with these people, and my anxiety level is usually sky high. I am overly sensitive and react poorly to the situation. I usually have a bit of a psycho moment, and storm off because he makes me upset.
So, I have decided - I am going to discuss it with my boyfriend, and if he is ok with it, I will invite all of his friends over for a picnic. They don't even have to bring anything. I will make all of the food. The only thing I ask is that they bring their own beer/wine. I will provide all of the food. I guess as a way to say that I am willing to play nice. I am even going to leave my friends out of it so that I am forced to interact with them.
Anyway, I think that is all for now