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How Do You Handle Adversity?

Sunday, August 18, 2013

How Do You Handle Adversity?

A daughter complained to her father about her life and how things have been so hard for her. She didn't know how she was going to make it and she wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed that just as one problem was solved, another arose.

Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. There he filled three pots with water, put them on the stove and placed the fire on high. Soon the three pots came to a boil.

In one pot he placed carrots, in the other he placed eggs, and in the last he placed ground coffee beans. He let them sit and boil, without saying a word.

The daughter sucked her teeth and impatiently wondered what he was trying to do. She had problems and he was making this strange concoction.

A half an hour later, he walked over to the stove and turned down the fire. He pulled the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. He pulled the eggs out and placed them in another bowl. Then he ladled the coffee out and placed it in a third bowl.

Turning to her he asked, "Darling what do you see?"

Smartly, she replied, "Carrots, eggs, and ground coffee beans."

He brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did so and noted that they were soft. He then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee. Her face frowned from the strength of the coffee.

Humbly, she asked, "What does it mean Father?"

He explained:

"Each of them faced the same adversity, 212 degrees of boiling water. However each reacted differently.

The carrots went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. But after going into boiling water, they softened and became weak.

The eggs were fragile. Their thin outer shells protected a liquid center. But after sitting in the boiling water, their insides became hardened.

The coffee beans are unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they became stronger and richer."

"Which are you?" he asked his daughter.

When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond?

Are you like the carrots, eggs, or coffee beans?

Are you the carrots that seem hard, but with the smallest amount of pain, adversity, or heat you wilt and become soft with no strength?

Are you the eggs, which start off with a malleable heart, a fluid spirit? But after a death, a breakup, a divorce, or a layoff you became hardened and stiff? Your shell looks the same but you become so bitter and tough, with a stiff spirit and heart, internally.

Or are you like the coffee beans? The beans don't reach their peak flavor and robustness until they are in water that reaches 212 degrees Fahrenheit. When the water gets the hottest, they just taste better.

When things are at their worst, do you get better? When people complain the most, do your praises increase? When the hour is the darkest and trials are at their greatest, does your worship elevate to another level?

How do you handle adversity?

Are you a carrot, an egg, or coffee bean?

--- Author Unknown ---


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
2ABBYNORMAL 8/27/2013 12:10AM

    Wow. This is incredible. I really need to reread it a lot.
It is very thought provoking.

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SDTOHIO 8/22/2013 9:24AM

    Wow hard hitting! This really makes you look at yourself. I must say I have had plenty of events I wished I handle differently . I pray that I learn to be a better person. Thank you for sharing this post. I bet it could help a lot of people.

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CATIATM 8/21/2013 10:15PM

    Hmmm .... I think I'm an éclair. Crusty on the outside but deliciously soft and tasty on the inside. emoticon

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MSANITAL 8/20/2013 8:37AM

    This hit me so hard.. I am going through a rough patch right now.. not sure why when everything is going so well for me.. these past few weeks and then I stepped on the scale yesterday and it said I was up 7lbs.. I knew it was not so.. either the my scale was broke at home or the scale at the gym was off.. either way it really blew my mind all day. I started to doubt all my hard work this Summer, kickboxing, riding my bike 21 miles 3x a week, walking/jogging, weight lifting and eating clean really clean. I think yesterday I was an carrot, and an egg that was for sure.. I want to be that coffee bean.. I am going to be that coffee bean this really is what I needed to read today..
Thank you and I hope you don't mind I am sharing this on my blog or facebook page.. Thanks..
Hugs.. your my angel today you saved me..

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NISSANGIRL 8/20/2013 7:35AM

    I loved this!!! Thanks so much for posting!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LIVINHEALTHY9 8/20/2013 6:27AM

    emoticon Very nice!

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TONYARM 8/20/2013 1:03AM

    Love that! Thanks for sharing! emoticon

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GLAMNGLOWDIVA 8/19/2013 11:52PM

    That is awesome, thanks!

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ADVENTURE_4HIRE 8/19/2013 11:27AM

    I'm grateful you 'do' what you 'do' and for how you present uplifting and encouraging words. If I never join another SP team or visit another blog, I think it would not effect me like never having the opportunity to read another one of your caring sharing(s). emoticon

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DEE107 8/19/2013 12:10AM

    thank you love it

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JAMER123 8/18/2013 11:44PM

    Very powerful insight on adversity. Great blog, LITA!
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CHANGE4FIT 8/18/2013 11:24PM

    Thank you-

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NELLIEH1 8/18/2013 10:20PM

    Good insights and illustrations of ways to walk in times of adversity or affliction. It all starts with how we think and then what we choose to say and do. Thanks emoticon

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    Very thought-provoking. Love the visuals. Thanks Lita! emoticon

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TRAVELNISTA 8/18/2013 9:04PM

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TLG71567 8/18/2013 8:06PM

    Very inspiring. It reminds me of a poem about attitudes that I read years ago. Thanks for sharing this.

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HONOURIA 8/18/2013 7:55PM

    Hm....don't know exactly what to say about this. Wouldn't know where to put myself emoticon

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ARIZONA33 8/18/2013 5:48PM

    Thank you for sharing such an inspiring story and wonderful pictures. I think we have all been the carrot, egg and coffee bean at one point or another. Sometimes a bit of all three together in some situations. I agree with PATRICIAAK that I would tend to be tea leaves most of the time with a bit of healing, peace keeping and relaxing powers.

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JACKIE542 8/18/2013 12:24PM

    Love this, I try and do my best everyday, but I have been carrots, eggs and coffee, I like coffee the best. Thank you Lita, also love the first quote, we are responsible for our choices, we need to remember that. emoticon emoticon

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HAWTGRANNY2014 8/18/2013 11:53AM

    great blog. I love the bird flying. I do believe In the impossible. too many things happen not to believe.

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WORKNPROGRESS49 8/18/2013 11:53AM

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MRSJERRYBUSH 8/18/2013 11:43AM

    Such an inspiring blog!

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PATRICIAAK 8/18/2013 11:41AM

    Actually, I'm more tea leaves than any of the others - similar to coffee but having healing properties.

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DRASADAF 8/18/2013 11:19AM

    Wow lovely blog

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EWL978 8/18/2013 10:59AM

    I love it!! I tend to be a carrot, an egg, AND a coffee bean, depending on the moment!


Keep on keeping on and let me know how you're doing...........

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    Very Nice Poem. Thank you for sharing.

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