A Healthy Reflection SparkMail article back in 2008 addressed a question that is huge... or SHOULD be huge in almost any journey of lifestyle change:
.................. A HEALTHY REFLECTION ...from 2008:....................
"Do you accept responsibly for your choices in life?.
"Do you feel in control of your life? No matter how negative events or actions may become, you are the only force that is able to determine the reaction.
"Often we fail to do this and instead blame the world for our feelings of sadness, rejection, and hopelessness. The reality is that your actions are a choice, and you must claim those feelings and choices.
"We can be our best cheerleader or worst enemy when it comes to determining the health of our emotions. Do some pep talks with yourself each morning.
"This will help you develop positive, self-affirming thoughts that will enhance your personal development and growth."
Think of all the times we put 'blame' elsewhere.
Sometimes 'excuses' ARE legitimate.
And sometimes... we take the easy way out of claiming responsibility.
Only we -ourselves!internally!-- can know which is which.
Being honest with one's Self is important when we know change is necessary to result in a change or goal we want.... whether on committed level or wishful level.
Going from 'wish' and 'hope' to action involves responsibility.
GO FOR IT.
Accept responsibility for every choice.
Recognize when a choice IS in front of you, in front of me, ... US!
This empowerment to choose is absolutely an important key to any journey!
Haven't we all at some point if we live long enough to experience something that tests us to the measure? Life gets hard. And for some of us, hard with a capital "H". And that brings us right back to needing to TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR OURSELVES AND OUR ACTIONS!
We cannot control all that happens to and around us, but we CAN control how we react to words, events and circumstances. And one thing that we have no right to do is blaming others for matters that are our own responsibility.
Distorted self-absorbtion can be the fastest way to get nowhere.
Each of us is in fact ultimately responsible for his/her own decisions. We may not be able to control what will happen to or around us, but we are responsible for how we react to events and circumstances.