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Day 525: Okey-dokey...

Friday, August 16, 2013 see where my blog-daily / good intentions got me. Hah.

I was prompted to blog today by this:

When life pelts you with lemons ©

When life throws you lemons, it’s expedient and fun to say “I’ll make lemonade” or “Bring out the tequila!” but what do you do when life pelts you with lemons, and it’s not a joke?

1. Stay calm.
2. Take a deep breath.
3. Try not to over-react.
4. Take one step back, mentally, from the lemon.
5. Remain calm, look at what the lemon is and what it is not.

Often, when “bad” stuff is suddenly thrown at us – whether it’s expected, unexpected, of our own doing, or not – our knee-jerk response is to panic, freak out, freeze (which is probably natural). Our brain ceases to function, our heart rate increases, and we can’t think straight. It feels as if the floor and the ceiling have collapse on top of us and beneath us, and we can be enveloped in darkness.

We are human, it is natural for most of us to have this kind of reaction, even though some people seem able to deal with life’s shocks without experiencing any discomfort. I’m not really one of those, and perhaps neither are you.

Regardless of what life throws at us, it is important to stay calm, take a deep breath, try not to over-react, take one step back, and try to assess what it’s all about. Have a cup of chamomile, drink some water, take a step back, detach as much as possible, allow your heart rate to return to normal, and the dryness in your throat to subside.
And then look at the lemon again. It won’t suddenly have disappeared or changed severity or intensity, but through less fearful eyes, and with a calmer, clearer mind, we can get through that initial moment of panic and mental crisis.

Then we can slice the lemon into bite-sized chunks, and deal with each chunk one at a time – what is this thing, what do we need to do, who do we know who can help us …..

And then we need to do our best to stay in the present and not fill our heads and our hearts with thoughts and words of worry about some future event, or how the present lemon can affect everything else. Deal with the lemon, as calmly as possible, stand in your own personal power. For the religious and spiritual among us, reach for your anchor and ask for help. Sometimes there’s more help out there than we can even imagine.

By Beba Papakyriakou (BA; BA Hons (Psych)

© Reproduce freely as is but retain copyright.

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It's an excerpt from Zalome's newsletter "Thoughts." I've written about her before. If you'd like to know more about her, or subscribe to her newsletter, the link is:

You might have to look around to find the clickable link; I've been a subscriber of hers since... well, almost since I've been on the 'net, really. Probably about 15 years now. Hers is the oldest continuous e-subscription I have.

That's it for this morning, peeps. If Life hands you lemons - now you know what to do, lol. Have a good'un, Sparklers - carpe diem!


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
LEANJEAN6 9/25/2013 8:23AM

    This is a great blog for me to-day Kasey --I do appreciate your support-Lynda

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LEANJEAN6 9/12/2013 7:58AM

    Again--here I am saying HOWDY DOODY!--Lynda

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LEANJEAN6 9/3/2013 6:58AM

    very true-----chop the lemons----thought I'd just drop by to say howdy!-Lynda emoticon

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ASPENHUGGER 8/18/2013 11:50PM

    Thanks for sharing that! Funny how these things fall from the sky when you need them most, isn't it?

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CAPECODLIGHT 8/18/2013 9:13AM

    Good advice, indeed. emoticon

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SIMPLYABUNDANT 8/16/2013 10:10AM

    Great blog ~ I feel like I need to print it out and carry it around with me so that when those lemons start coming, I'll have a cheat sheet to help me through! I'll definitely check out the newsletter!

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WINE4GIRL 8/16/2013 8:26AM

    Great advice! Just remember to zest it first. I always try to look for some zest...

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DEBRITA01 8/16/2013 8:12AM

    I can relate to the "good intentions"...good advice on your blog today,too, b/c we all are thrown lemons from time to time. Have a great weekend, Kasey! emoticon

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DEBIGENE 8/16/2013 8:00AM

    I'm the type that needs this reminder often when in sticky situations !! Thanks for the reminder.

Hope you are enjoying your summer. It's a beautiful day in Charm City !!!

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LECATES 8/16/2013 6:53AM

    I hope the lemons have not been the reason you have not blogged. Hope everything is okay. I have missed hearing from you!

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LYNMEINDERS 8/16/2013 6:24AM

    Loved the tequilla in timnes gone by...woohoo...great way to de sour life....

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ONEKIDSMOM 8/16/2013 6:18AM

    A good message for this, or any day! I just finished "day 12" of the current 21 day meditation challenge, and its centering thought was "I use my energy to heal and transform". I needed both of these today.

Namaste, my friend! emoticon

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KNIGHTS6 8/16/2013 3:48AM

Thanks for the blog, very interesting

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PHOENIX1949 8/16/2013 3:23AM

    Very timely for me. Thank you.

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POPSY190 8/16/2013 3:10AM

    Thank you. I will look at the newsletter.

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