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Maid Service

Thursday, August 15, 2013

For weeks now I have felt like a maid in my home. I guess it's because we used to share things around the house and now it seems like I'm the only one doing anything. I know that he works 12 hours a day for 4 days. But he also gets 4 days off. Guess what on those 4 days he doesn't help either. I don't know what's going on with him. But I'm about ready to stop being a maid and seeing just how messy the house is going to get. Any takers how long I will last?

Don't get me wrong he isn't always like this. I'm trying to grit my teeth and bear it. Hopefully my hubby will come back to himself. Or else TDCJ (his job) has taken over his brain.

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AMBER281 8/24/2013 7:13PM

    I would talk to him as he might not be aware of how upset you are.
I hope things get better soon!

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OLIVIANIGHT 8/16/2013 8:33AM

    Have you asked for help? Men are terrible at subtle hints.

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    I would either talk to him or make a list for his days off. Give him the choice, do it all 1 day or spread it out. Best to talk to him.

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-ICANDOIT- 8/15/2013 10:45PM

    I feel your pain! I have 4 kids, a messy dog, and a husband who all think they help...and they don't. I have gone on strike, but nobody noticed. More effective was when I took pictures of all the piles and mess, and I showed them what I actually wake up to each day. They are not perfect still- but a bit better. The pictures embarrassed them all. I hope you get it worked out- cuz it is no fun (as I run off to do more laundry!!)

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    I was feeling this way around the house earlier this summer as well. I don't work and the fella does, but I was getting really burned out on doing all the housework, yard work, everything. We talked about it and now we do 15 minutes of cleaning around the house a day together...we even set a timer. It's amazing how much you can get done it that little amount of time, especially if you do it every day! We still do some additional stuff on our own as well, but that's more of just because we feel like it situation, and if we don't, it's okay. It really helped me feel less overwhelmed.

I hope you can come to a good solution on this soon! Feeling like a maid in your own home is no fun.

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SGTSUNNY 8/15/2013 4:18PM

    Best to talk to him, keeping it inside is not good. Hope you can come to an agreement that will ease some of the load off of you!

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FIERCEONE4PEACE 8/15/2013 4:11PM

    HA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! men!

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UNICORN212 8/15/2013 3:27PM

    Maybe you can give him things to take care of on the days when he is off. Or give him a choice of items from a list - that way he can have some say in what he ends up doing. But he needs to carry part of the load.

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