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The "To Do" List: Friend of Foe?

Thursday, August 15, 2013

I've lived my life by a to-do list for years. I always felt so accomplished when I was able to check things off of the list. I used the it as incentive/a big push to get chores or projects done. I loved it and couldn't imagine life without such a list. The list was my friend. It kept me focused and feeling productive.

I've changed my mind. Lately, this list has become my enemy. I no longer feel motivated it. I feel guilty and irresponsible. Smothered. There are items on my list that stay there for days, even weeks. They must not be important.

I was raised believing that if a person was not working at something, they were lazy. And that was unacceptable. Spotless home. Manicured lawn. Organized drawers and closets. Clean baseboards. The list goes on forever, repeating itself into infinity!

I have since learned the value of rest and relaxation. I have learned to live more in the moment. I've learned to spend time nurturing inner self and just goofing off!

I'll still use a list as a calendar to remind myself important dates, appointments and deadlines. Chores and projects will not appear on my new list, which I'm re-naming "Calendar." duh!

The chores might get done. If they don't, it's ok. The sense of relief I feel is amazing!

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    Can be both! Sounds like you've hit a balance.
    1650 days ago
    Same here. When I was married, I had a daily list with about a gazillion entries on it. Fortunately, I was a stay at home mom with only a part-time job, so on MOST days, I was able to complete everything on my 'list.' EVERYTHING was on the list. I think I may have spent as much time checking back and forth with my list as I spent actually doing the things. When my husband (now my ex) left, and I began working almost 40 hours a week and sometimes more than that, one of the first things that I did was "GET RID OF THE LIST!" Oh, I keep appointments, etc. on my calendar, but my view on it now is, if I have to have it written down on a daily chores list to know to do it, then it's probably OK to NOT DO IT! emoticon

    Glad that you have rid yourself of your list. It makes like so much simplier!

    HUGS and BEST WISHES in reaching all of your goals.

    1651 days ago
    Oh Heck! My comment posted twice. I deleted this one, and I will change it to read HAVE A GREAT DAY! We MISS YOU, and I like the New YOU with the New Attitude!

    1651 days ago

    Comment edited on: 8/15/2013 3:37:06 PM
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