Tuesday, August 13, 2013
I had a great visit with mom, her mood was much better. She is not eating well and has lost a lot of weight Ė she went from around 200 pounds to 140 pounds. She is in less pain but she is totally bedridden, and minor activities like washing her hair are big obstacles. She gave me a couple of jackets; she told me she will never get dressed again. I used to be the only family member that could use her clothing (because my size was larger). Now her old elegant clothes simply donít fit me; the jackets are size 22 I wear a 16. But I just thanked her nicely and packed them away; I may alter the jackets or I will just donate them.
(sister, brother, nephew, mom, me)
Included on one black velvet jacket was a gold pin shaped like a feather. Mom was insistent that I take it; I was a little uncomfortable, because per momís will the jewelry is supposed to be split equally between the 3 daughters after her demise. On the other hand, I am aware that she has given away one or two other special pieces; she doesnít remember to whom. I think I will just e-mail my sisters so we are keeping track. The bulk of the items are in my sisterís safe; I donít think we want to keep a lot of the good jewelry in momís room.
I blogged earlier about mom giving cash to nursing home staff, which is strictly forbidden and created huge problems (not to mention someone removing the cash from the last few envelopes while mom was under heavy pain medication). Mom told my sister she wants to do it again! She wants to have cash donations given to the staff after she dies; my sister pointed out that the staff could be fired for accepting the cash. Little gifts like boxes of chocolates or flowers are fine. Cash is not. But rather than have a big argument and tears, my sister is just saying ďmom I understand your wishesĒ. My sister will not write the checks or give cash.
Overall I did very well with eating moderately, limiting sweets, no alcohol, and exercising. My acid reflux symptoms are doing much better. My weight loss seems to be stalled but hopefully that is just temporary!