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WEEDING OUT DESTRUCTIVE FRIENDS

Tuesday, August 13, 2013

So far I have given up two morbidly obese best friends who nudge me off my track with their quirky comments. Even my dog has been interfering with my diet by waking me up at night and demanding that I give him a midnight snack. It is just too hard for me to go through this without eating myself. So, with tears of sadness I have divested myself of another best friend. I have to remove all obstacles to losing this weight which has plagued me since childhood. My obesity is not a simple health issue. It is very deep, very complicated and actually demonic. All demons (selfish, crazy, mean people) need to leave me alone. I am not a pushover any more.

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Update 11/6/14. Congratulations to me! One of these toxic friends raped his roommate, using force and injuring him. Then he kicked the roommate out and laughed about what he had done to him. It took a lot but I finally realized that there are limits to my friendship. If you kill people or rape people I refuse to be your friend. Even I have limits!
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  • SWEET-SUE
    Yes, you cannot allow your weight losing determination to go to the dogs. Fido must go.
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    1037 days ago
  • WWREFUGEE1942
    Hard cases have to go to extremes. I attract the morbidly obese. These people have to be directed to any weight loss program they choose but they must choose something.
    1201 days ago

    Comment edited on: 8/24/2013 9:56:34 PM
  • GRYFFINCLAW_DH
    Wishing you all the best as you continue doing what you believe is necessary in order to achieve your goals! emoticon
    1206 days ago
  • WWREFUGEE1942
    I think it is important to attack my emotional eating two ways: by developing a thicker skin and also by removing the really bad emotional triggers. I am a fragile ego which was battered in childhood to the point where I could not stand much attack. I want a stronger ego. But, in order to heal I have to remove the really savage attackers. It is wrong to subject a wounded spirit to more wounding. On the other hand, the goal is to heal and get strong, not to remain weak and wounded forever. I have to figure out just the right amount of stress to strengthen myself. Just like in physical exercise, where we learn not to damage our bodies with too much stress. I have to exercise, but not to the point of pain and certainly I should not just lie back and let my muscles turn to fat.

    As far as dogs are concerned. I really really love dogs. I cannot imagine being happy without a furry beast cheering me on to glory as I go for walks and do the laundry. On the other hand, a dog costs a lot of money ($1000 - $2000 a year) and I am one broken axle from financial ruin. I am so sorry for myself but the truth is that I cannot afford a dog, even an angel spirit.
    1207 days ago

    Comment edited on: 8/17/2013 9:39:17 PM
  • MOONSTREAM
    its hard to distance from friends & relatives who take you off track. Thankfully you have SP friends who are here to encourage you !!
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    1210 days ago
  • FATHINSN
    I wish I have courage to do what you did! Or how about you try to turn around the destructive friends, maybe you can influence them!
    1211 days ago
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