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WEEDING OUT DESTRUCTIVE FRIENDS

Tuesday, August 13, 2013

So far I have given up two morbidly obese best friends who nudge me off my track with their quirky comments. Today I realized my dog has been interfering with my diet by waking me up at night and demanding that I give him a midnight snack. It is just too hard for me to go through this without eating myself. So, with tears of sadness I have divested myself of another best friend. I have to remove all obstacles to losing this weight which has plagued me since childhood. My obesity is not a simple health issue. It is very deep, very complicated and actually demonic. All demons (selfish, crazy, mean people) are cordially invited to leave me alone. I am not a pushover any more.

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Update 11/6/14. Congratulations to me! One of these toxic friends forcibly raped his roommate, using force, injuring him and then he kicked him out. It took a lot but I finally realized that there are limits to my friendship. If you kill people or rape people I refuse to be your friends. I have limits!
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  • SWEET-SUE
    Yes, you cannot allow your weight losing determination to go to the dogs. Fido must go.
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    969 days ago
  • WWREFUGEE1942
    Hard cases have to go to extremes. I attract the morbidly obese. These people have to be directed to any weight loss program they choose but they must choose something.
    1134 days ago

    Comment edited on: 8/24/2013 9:56:34 PM
  • GRYFFINCLAW_DH
    Wishing you all the best as you continue doing what you believe is necessary in order to achieve your goals! emoticon
    1139 days ago
  • WWREFUGEE1942
    I think it is important to attack my emotional eating two ways: by developing a thicker skin and also by removing the really bad emotional triggers. I am a fragile ego which was battered in childhood to the point where I could not stand much attack. I want a stronger ego. But, in order to heal I have to remove the really savage attackers. It is wrong to subject a wounded spirit to more wounding. On the other hand, the goal is to heal and get strong, not to remain weak and wounded forever. I have to figure out just the right amount of stress to strengthen myself. Just like in physical exercise, where we learn not to damage our bodies with too much stress. I have to exercise, but not to the point of pain and certainly I should not just lie back and let my muscles turn to fat.

    As far as dogs are concerned. I really really love dogs. I cannot imagine being happy without a furry beast cheering me on to glory as I go for walks and do the laundry. On the other hand, a dog costs a lot of money ($1000 - $2000 a year) and I am one broken axle from financial ruin. I am so sorry for myself but the truth is that I cannot afford a dog, even an angel spirit.
    1140 days ago

    Comment edited on: 8/17/2013 9:39:17 PM
  • MOONSTREAM
    its hard to distance from friends & relatives who take you off track. Thankfully you have SP friends who are here to encourage you !!
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    1142 days ago
  • FATHINSN
    I wish I have courage to do what you did! Or how about you try to turn around the destructive friends, maybe you can influence them!
    1144 days ago
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