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Yep, They're Pretty Big!


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Tuesday, August 13, 2013




In the past 18 months, I've lost 71 lbs. Thats a lot of weight, and I still have about 71 more pounds to go before I reach my goal size. You'd think that after a 71 lbs weight loss, I'd be getting lots of compliments and remarks about it from people...but I haven't! Aside from my Spark friends and my hubby, no one else has really mentioned it. A few months ago, I did get a generic "You're looking good these days" from someone, and I was pleased with that. But no one else has really said anything about my weight loss.

In the past, this would have defeated me! I've lost weight before, and it was the compliments that kept me going. But its different this time....I'm not losing the weight for anyone other than ME. I honestly don't really care if anyone else notices my weight loss or the changes my new lifestyle has made in me. I notice it, in the way I feel when I workout...in the way my clothes fit...in my stamina and energy. I notice it when I can easily slip into a booth in a restaurant, or slide behind the steering wheel in the car without it touching my belly anymore. I notice it in the firmness I feel in my body beneath the flab I still have to lose, and in my increased muscle strength.



Yesterday, a neighbor did finally ask me the question; "You've lost a lot of weight, haven't you?" And just as I was about to tell her that I had, she continued on with "You've gotten smaller but your upper arms are still really big."

You know what? I think almost ALL of us have parts of our bodies that we don't like so much, or that we're self conscious about. I've heard people say "I hate my thighs" or "My butt is too big." For me, the body part that I'm most self conscious about is my upper arms. Let's face it; they are pretty darned big! I have lost weight many times before, and reached my goal size a few times. It was great to be able to stop shopping in the plus sizes. But even at my goal weight, I would sometimes have to buy plus sized shirts simply because the sleeves in Misses shirts would be too tight on my upper arms. I would always think "I'd feel good about myself if I could only have smaller upper arms!"

I don't really think that way anymore. I LOVE my body now...all of it. I love my wrinkles and stretch marks. I love my webbed toes and my stubby fingers. And I love my big upper arms!



So when my neighbor mentioned my upper arms, I surprised myself. Instead of being defensive or embarrassed as I would have in the past, I just smiled and said "Yep, they're pretty big...but they're really strong, too. You should see how long I can hold a plank!" She didn't seem to know what to say to that, lol.



To be honest, I would love it if I could have slender arms. But its not the end of the world that I don't! I'm not going to waste time being unhappy about the size of my arms, or my stomach or my nose or anything else. I love my body! I love finding out how much it is capable of. I love seeing the changes that slowly appear as I continue to eat right and exercise. When I do yoga, it amazes me to see how flexible and strong I have become.



This is the only body I'm going to have here on this Earth, and I'm going to work to improve it as much as possible, and to keep it as healthy as I can. I'm going to love my body and appreciate it, because its an awesome creation.



“Everybody has a part of her body that she doesn’t like, but I've stopped complaining about mine because I don’t want to critique nature's handiwork...
My job is simply to allow the light to shine out of the masterpiece.”
— Alfre Woodward




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LORIVIOLA 2/20/2014 8:49AM

    THis is great. thanks for sharing!

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TERRIJ7 2/4/2014 10:38PM

    Great attitude! Thanks for the perspective :)

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MCONFESSOR 1/24/2014 5:28PM

    Nice approach and outlook. I am glad to hear you are able to focus on the positive. It makes SUCH a difference! Congratulations on such a major loss, by the way. (On a side note, I believe you are the only other person to say that your upper arms are your biggest complaint/problem area. I have had this problem for years and, much to my chagrin at times, have also just accepted that this is the way my body operates and I need to learn to go with it. It really helped seeing your outlook on it, because I still struggle at times!) Have a great weekend!

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CATNCAG 1/24/2014 4:55PM

    Wow talk about an off-handed compliment but I LOVED your comeback! I will have to remember this for future reference as this is also 1 of my biggest problem areas! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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PCSPEER 9/25/2013 12:31PM

    Wonderful!!!! Don't worry what others think or say. You're doing great!!! emoticon

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GRAMPIAN 9/25/2013 6:28AM

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SCRIPTEDFLIGHT 9/22/2013 11:14AM

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EFFRAYECHILDE 9/4/2013 3:02PM

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FRABBIT 9/3/2013 8:23PM

  You go girl! How inspiring and what a great comeback!

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MISSLISA1973 8/31/2013 12:50AM

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GLENMORRISGIRL 8/28/2013 9:13AM

  Man, what a piece of work your neighbour is!!!!! Sometimes it's great to remember that other people's issues aren't a reflection of who we are, but of who they are. Doing it for yourself is the only way to be successful!

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KIPPER15 8/27/2013 8:17PM

    Great message emoticon

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ALIDOSHA 8/26/2013 3:37PM

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G33K10V3 8/26/2013 11:02AM

    Congrats on your success, you are doing awesome!!! Keep on movin! emoticon

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WHITEANGEL4 8/25/2013 11:32PM

    Way to go.....keep it p

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LISBETHSALANDER 8/23/2013 9:51AM

    Loved this blog. You can't stay moving forward if you don't love yourself.

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GUIN66 8/23/2013 1:57AM

  Good for you! I am still getting to that point where I can HONESTLY say I love my body the way it is. At least, I can now look in the mirror without cringing, but I have a way to go to say I love my body the way it is. Thank you for your personal insight - it will definitely help me in my journey.

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ASTRA58 8/22/2013 9:52AM

    I think the quote that got to me the most was "Accepting yourself only as long as 7you look a certain way isn't self love. It's self destruction." Now that I've lost a certain amount of weight, I find myself looking back at my previous self with a certain amount of "I'm never going back there again." but also with a sense of disrepect of the effort that it's taken me to get where I am now.

I need to love me for who I am, who I was and who I will become. Unconditionally. It's only then that I will be able to handle all of the hurdles life will be throwing at me when I get to goal and maintain my weight loss. Hate won't put me in the right mindset, but love will.

Thanks for the reminder, Pixie.

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TAICHIDANCER 8/22/2013 5:33AM

    An excellent message for all of us.

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GRAYLADY13 8/22/2013 4:27AM

    BEAUTIFUL! You are awesome! Great blog. emoticon

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SUPERSYLPH 8/21/2013 9:23AM

    That's right! I love my body!

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LEEW0LF 8/21/2013 6:48AM

  I love absolutely love your mottos!

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SLIMMINGSHAY 8/20/2013 8:33PM

    Way to go! Love this blog too! amazing!

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SADWHITEWOLF 8/20/2013 2:34PM

    I had on friend recently who said "you just keep shrinking, I feel like I could pick you up and swing you around!"
Unfortunately I shamefacedly told her that I had experienced some regain since I saw her last.
Things have redistributed though.
My thighs and calve now feel huge to me. Bigger than before my loss
I think that would be the muscles that running built!

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BKNOCK 8/20/2013 1:49PM

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IREACHMYDREAMS 8/20/2013 12:48PM

    What a great blog post! Thank you for sharing your insights. This is one of the biggest things I have struggled with...appreciating my body for where it is at right now. I constantly berate myself for not looking different (smaller stomach, thighs, arms, etc). Thank you for the reminder that I beautiful no matter what my body looks like.

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BRENDA_G50 8/20/2013 9:02AM

    emoticon Pixie, I LOVED your comment to your nosey, busybody neighbor!!! Apparently she was never taught the Golden Rule of "If you can't say something nice....then keep your mouth shut!!!"

It's always nice to hear compliments from other people about our weight loss, but, only if they are sincere.

I always enjoy reading your blogs because they give me hope and inspiration.

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1SALMON1 8/20/2013 12:47AM

    WOW look at all the comments on this blog! What you wrote is so exactly right - and hooray for you having that right understanding and replying so wisely to your neighbor. These bodies of ours are pretty fabulous and deserve care and appreciation. I always love your blogs - so fun, and SO encouraging! Thank you!!!

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RORYLYONS 8/20/2013 12:46AM

    Gee Pixie I have arms that jiggle too.....You handled her with class and I must say she has very little. So proud of your news of 71 pounds. I have been having the darnedest time going below the 200 mark but it's been a month and still holding. Your blog is inspirational sending you a bunch of emoticon emoticon

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KELLYSC42 8/19/2013 11:42PM

    thanks for sharing this today! It was encouraging to hear how you have grown in your love for yourself and that the lady making the comment about how big your arms are -- I LOVE your response! Way to go!!!

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ENG_TV 8/19/2013 10:54PM

    I needed a reminder of this! Thanks for stating it so well. emoticon

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BUSMOM27 8/19/2013 9:42PM

    don't listen to others negative talk....you are awesome!

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HOLLYM48 8/19/2013 8:03PM

    wow, talk about someone opening their mouth and inserting their foot!
You are right, we will always have something that is not quite perfect and we have to love ourselves just the way we are ! Keep on rocking it! You are strong and flexible and I wonder what you neighbor can do, probably not half as much as what you can!


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FLUTTER-BY)L( 8/19/2013 5:16PM

    I just found this. I needed this today. Thanks so much for a well thought out blog.

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CINDYCHARLENE 8/19/2013 5:07PM

    I haven't noticed your upper arms. All I notice is your wonderful smile and cheerful attitude. If I did notice your upper arms I would say they are absolutely beautiful because they are part of you and you are beautiful from the inside out. Who says upper arms have to be small or ones middle for that matter. My middle will never be small since I have a short waist but that is OK because that is the way God made me and everyone is unique and that what makes us each very special from the inside out. Love you sweet girl.
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GRAYGRANNY 8/19/2013 9:17AM

    Great blog..................wonderful message for us all.......... emoticon emoticon emoticon

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PINKNFITCARLA 8/19/2013 12:04AM

    I missed this blog earlier! What a great one, I'm so glad I saw it tonight!

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WINDY01 8/18/2013 3:10PM

    A very inspirational blog! Thank you so much for sharing. I tend to want to hear the compliments too, but then as I put weight back on, I feel as if everyone is gossiping about it behind my back. It really makes me crazy! I am trying to do this just for me. I know that is the best. I am also trying to love by body, and to accept compliments from my husband without responding negatively. Thanks for being such an inspiration! Windy

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CYANI48 8/18/2013 12:56PM

    Thank you so much for this post. It is the first one I have read since restarting today and it is just what I needed to read. Very inspirational and heartwarming! Just know that you gave someone a tremendous gift today emoticon

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ANEWME42012 8/18/2013 4:45AM

    Your comment about compliments keeping you going gave me pause. I am the opposite. I get to the point that people compliment me on my weight loss and a couple of weeks later I realise I have taken my foot of the pedal and am gaining again.
Thanks for your blog.
Susan

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DEEKELLYE 8/17/2013 11:02PM

    As long as you feel good about yourself then it doesn't matter what other people think. It's your body and you love it and you have noticed changes and you have lost 71 pounds and you can do all kinds of things you couldn't before you lost 71 pounds. From what I have read in your blogs and on my spark page you are a great person and you are kind and funny and really creative. You add pictures to your blogs. You take the time to post on my spark page with different quotes. There are some parts of your blogs that make me laugh. I always smile at the time you take to post something on my spark page because you took the time to do so. So you have big arms but your personality is bigger and better and you are doing a great job at losing weight and are half way to your goal weight/size. Keep up the great work!

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MARYSMILERMOORE 8/17/2013 9:28AM

    An amazing post Pixie, you are amazing emoticon

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NERDLETTE 8/17/2013 8:29AM

    Wonderful post, Pixie. You are so inspirational!! emoticon

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NISSANGIRL 8/17/2013 7:54AM

    emoticon story!!! Love your blogs! Keep up the great work girl! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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    emoticon Great post! emoticon

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4KWALK 8/16/2013 8:37PM

    You are a very smart lady. You have it right again.

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