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Who Are You Cheating On?

Tuesday, August 13, 2013

Consider this - if you wouldn't stand for someone you love being cheated, why would you stand for cheating yourself?

My experiences so far with moderation instead of deprivation and choosing to eat healthy foods instead of diet foods and dieting has been a very positive one.

Part of the reason I do not feel so restricted is that I do allow myself a treat each day - however it has to be included in my daily caloric allotment, which means it is usually something like a single serving Kozy Shack Tapioca or Rice Pudding or a Hunt's Snack Pack Fat Free Chocolate Pudding (and the choice for fat free is because in this case it means no hydrogenated oils).

I want to share an important distinction about moderation instead of deprivation and what it has to do with trigger foods (those foods that, if you have them in your house, you will consume the entire amount).

Trigger foods are an exemption to the moderation instead of deprivation practice simply because if I cannot trust myself to be able to take a portion and be satisfied with it - then it has no place among the foods I consume.

For example, I rarely choose to have potato chips because it is very hard for me to feel satisfied after a serving - and all too easy to justify having a second.

However, and this is where the difference is for me - if I do choose to have them - it is from a single serving size bag (and for the record, think about just how hard it is to find a "single-serving" size bag or container). Then, because there are no second servings available because the bag is empty - I seem to have an easier time being satisfied.

Do you have any trigger foods that you choose not to consume?

What foods do you enjoy as a daily (or weekly) treat?

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
NELSONCHERYL59 8/14/2013 8:24PM

    Great blog.
my big trigger food is lays potatoe chips. I really cannot eat just one serving. But any chips r bad for me.
carbs r difficult, especially sugary, doughy things, breads, cakes, pies...
my moderate treat is dark chocolate. I can eat less than a serving and be satisfied.

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MADEIT3 8/14/2013 9:22AM

    Wonderful distinction about moderation. If it comes with grains, sugars, or peanuts, it's out for me!! I remember the days when I bought bags of donuts or bagels and ate them in the car going home. Your picture of the donut reminded me what that was like - to cheat on myself! Thanks!!

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DEEGIRL50 8/14/2013 8:18AM

    Potato chips... even the word has me licking my lips! For a while, I was stopping every day to purchase a single serving bag (which was actually 2 1/2 servings). Once I started tracking and I wanted to cut back by 200 calories a day... the chips had to go. I miss them, but I like the freedom from feeling like I "Need" them.

I can't have baked goods in the house. I can never stop at just one cookie or brownie. Now, they are a special occasion food and left behind when I come home.

I love Dove Chocolate Promises. I do the little "celebration" song when I walk past the candy dish that I purposely keep out in the open. I tell myself this evening when I have my "one" snack... then I can have two chocolates. It feels good to be in control.

Wow, my response is turning into my own blog! emoticon emoticon
Thank you for getting so many people to open up and share!

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CERTHIA 8/14/2013 6:30AM

    Inspiring blog! emoticon

I also try my best to stay away from potato-chips. Nope, I just can't eat those in moderation. I won't stop until the bowl is empty if I start.

Dark chocolate is my little treat, I can usually have just a square or two (or three or four..) and feel satisfied.

As long as I put everything in the tracker I don't consider it cheating myself, even when I break my budget. Tracking is to me a tool to discover habits and patterns to plan ahead from.

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COCK-ROBIN 8/13/2013 9:42PM

    You're doing great!

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FELINEBETTER 8/13/2013 3:47PM

    This blog rings out loudly! I think the concept of not depriving yourself is a very good one, however, as you say, not always practical! Some foods are a problem.
I have noticed in most cases though that I can be just as satisfied with a smaller portion -- if that's all there is. For the most part, I try to portion out things to prevent myself from getting greedy. Eventually, I hope to be able to control that "more is better" urge completely! We shall see.

Great blog, Cheryl - as usual! emoticon emoticon

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DEEDAYE 8/13/2013 3:39PM

    I am a cheater and like most cheating, it's done in secret. Cheating and hiding brings shame. I need to be faithful & honest with and for ME!

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KAYDE53 8/13/2013 3:28PM

    I do sometimes, but I try to make it a healthier one, if I start snacking on favorites, I have trouble quitting. emoticon

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GOCALGAL 8/13/2013 1:30PM

    Excellent blog! I am working on so much of this right now. For sure, I can not have cake, chocolate chips cookies or anything with cheese in the name like Cheetos or Cheese Nips (to name a few) in the house. They are def trigger foods for me.

I will do good with something like a few pieces of chocolate and then later totally blow it. Dark chocolate with nuts is always in the house as I have been a perpetual dieter through 40+ years of marriage and DH has been an angel. I want to learn and practice moderation.

My healthy snacks that I am trying to safely track in are Kind bars and Lara bars. I take almonds everywhere with me for emergencies. I would also be very interested to know what other healthy snacks there are out there.

emoticon emoticon Keep Sparking!


Comment edited on: 8/13/2013 1:33:13 PM

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ELMA1913 8/13/2013 12:21PM

    Excellent, and just what I needed to read right now as I was contemplating walking out to the kitchen to snitch some chocolate chips! emoticon

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SHERIO5 8/13/2013 10:35AM

    You make some excellent points. I too, have figured out that abstaining probably isn't for me. But, moderation is difficult with certain foods. Tortilla chips are my weakness! I also have trouble with chewy cherry candy, like Swedish Fish! I have been experimenting with buying single serving sized snacks. It seems to work! The thrifty person in me wants to buy the full or family sized packages, but if this works...I bought sandwich bags with zippers, I plan to premeasure servings of cookies and crackers...Maybe I can save money and teach myself what a serving truly looks like!

Thank you for sharing!

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NORASPAT 8/13/2013 10:10AM

    You have it right. I just had a family reunion. Just 9 of us and our family brought in foods I never eat but I did because it felt social.
I blogged yesterday and said I was having a hard time throwing it away but I must do that. Mostly for me it is salty foods.

Good Blog Pat in Maine. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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NANCYPAT1 8/13/2013 10:03AM

    Your attitude mirrors mine - I have no forbidden foods but there are some that I generally avoid for whatever reasons - like them too much, not satisfied with a single serving, or just don't like the overall nutrition picture they paint. I DO have them occasionally but as you mention - in single serving portions and without a side order of guilt. I find it easier to stick with my plan when I don't deprive myself or put up a DARE - never could resist responding to a "CAN'T" have or "FORBIDDEN" labels - they act as red-flags and tempt me to PROVE them wrong - because I "CAN" and "WILL" eat them just to show I can.

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LJCANNON 8/13/2013 9:52AM

    emoticon What a WONDERFUL Way to look at "Cheating". Thank You!! I may have to 'Borrow' your Poster/Quote.
emoticon Ice Cream!! I have some almost every day -- But I DO have to be Cautious. It could Very Easily turn into a Trigger Food. I think by having A Portion on a Regular Basis it takes away some of the 'Fire Power'.

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BIGPAWSUP 8/13/2013 9:44AM

    That is the perfect attitude! Congrats on your control!

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SISSIE21 8/13/2013 9:16AM

    It's true, some foods just trigger a binge that can be hard to control. Chocolate cake with chocolate icing is a binge food for me. I know what will happen if I eat it. Been there. Done that...
'Cheating on your diet' is another way of abandoning yourself. With it comes feelings of failure and powerlessness. That's why I agree with you that it should be a life style change using moderation, not a diet. Having said that, even a healthy lifestyle of moderation can be abandoned and it is darn hard to get back on track as I am at the moment experiencing...

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SNOW_LEOPARD_74 8/13/2013 8:59AM

    Peanut Butter!! I can't seem to resist it when it's in my house.

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LORILEEPAGE 8/13/2013 8:44AM

    I like to have a dulce de leche jello pudding snack cup in the evening. But trigger foods are cookies, cakes or chocolate candies.

Funny, but I can be good about having just one piece of cake, but will really want more....I move on to a binge of other sweets but what I really wanted was a second piece of cake!

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GAILANN48 8/13/2013 8:41AM

    Ice cream is my twice weekly treat - I could eat it twice a DAY if I allowed it! I share your problem with the chips, of any kind, and the way you've chosen to allow them in once in a while.

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CELIAMINER 8/13/2013 8:28AM

    Chips and guac. I buy the 100-calorie Wholly Guacamole packs and either force myself to portion out chips or use carrots and cucumber slices to dip.

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DEBJAE 8/13/2013 8:18AM

    Great blog!

I can't keep chips or sweets in my house...there's just no such thing as a single serving for me with those lol.

And as far as treating myself...a chicken sandwich from Chic fil a is a treat once in a while, as in once a month. Sweet treats trigger more sugar cravings and I find it's more beneficial for me to just stay away from those all together.

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KELLIEBEAN 8/13/2013 7:59AM

    Tostitos and salsa. I can't be stopped once I start. I've been doing better about pouring some in a bowl and stopping there but it doesn't always work. So I try to avoid them.

My weekly treat is ice cream. I am better at stopping at a reasonable portion of ice cream than I am with chips.

Excellent blog. We should not cheat ourselves!

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