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Spare me the guilt trip

Monday, August 12, 2013

I'm working really hard to lose the weight I regained (through a series of stressful life events and bad food decisions). In the last 4 weeks, Iíve lost nearly 11 pounds (10.8 to be exact). Iím proud of myself.

Instead of eating Frankfoods just to eat more, Iím eating whole, clean foods (about 85% of the time which beats the way it was before). Iím finding that Ĺ a serving of dark chocolate covered cranberries satisfies me far longer than the 100 calorie packs of pretty much anything. Iíve been taking my lunch and snacks to work with me, and I donít stare and drool at the cafeteria food my colleagues are eating wishing I could have that instead. Honestly, thatís one of the best things of all. Simply not wanting that food. When itís so hard to fight myself mentally to resist, I find that I'm more likely to cave in more often; therefore, when I donít have to make an effort to resist, Iím a happy camper. Will I eventually allow myself to indulge in a baked potato. Probably (itís really that good and I am NOT shy with sour cream on my tater...or cheese, or broccoli, or bacon--lol). Right now though, itís not an issue and Iím content bypassing it.

So, Iím making better choices, working out at least 5 days a week for a minimum of 25 minutes of high intensity and voila! Weight gone.

Some of my friends at work know this, and whenever theyíre around me, they start to talk about what they should be doing, and how hard it is for them. I am not judging them because not so long ago I was saying ďI wishÖĒ or ďIf I everÖĒ or better yet, "I really need to start...". I completely get all of that.

I try not to say anything anymore about my progress because it inevitably sends them off on a list of their problems and faults and makes me feel guilty for their negative self-talk. I donít really know why I feel guilty. I shouldnít. Thereís no reason. Itís not like Iím sabotaging them; nonetheless, I still feel guilty.

Thank goodness for SP. Weíre all plugging along with similar goals (be healthy), and we understand the process which is rarely easy, sometimes ugly, but always worth it.
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SUSUSUZZZIE 8/13/2013 11:10PM

    Doing a quick drive by here..

LOVE your blog! Love hearing about how great you are doing. It's very inspiring for me.

I understand that little feeling of guilt and I don't understand it in me either. Whatever the case, we both know we shouldn't feel guilty. Keep doing your thing and keep leading by example!

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OHMEMEME 8/13/2013 8:39PM

    Awesome aha for you! Stay focused on healthy habits and research and find support on dealing with emotions. You can do this! emoticon

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CHRISKENANDKIDS 8/13/2013 8:03PM

    Good for you! Love it! :)

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GETSTRONGRRR 8/13/2013 7:48PM

    Good on you!! Eating clean and making time to workout....it's friggin' magic I tell you!

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NIMIRRA137 8/13/2013 10:49AM

    I know it's easier said than done, but do not ever feel guilty for another persons lack of motivation, progress, or poor choices! I get that from my mother. She always says "Oh I wish I had your motivation or could lose weight like you. *sigh*" As she is eating an entire bag of potato chips for dinner. I used to feel guilty and like I shouldn't talk about my progress or life changes. I still do try not to but when she says it now I say "You can, you just have to decide to do it like I did!" Then I walk away.

Anyway, GREAT job on the eating! Sticking with my packed lunch at work is one of my hardest things as well. It's so easy to have Thai food with my co-worker or run out and have a delicious breakfast for lunch with my dad/co-worker. I too am getting better at saying no and enjoying what I bring. I find that even if isn't super "healthy" it's portion controlled and I know everything that it has so that is the better decision.

Keep up the great work!

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KAYOTIC 8/13/2013 9:45AM

    Even if they aren't starting on the path you're on just yet, they still see your actions, and maybe that will "spark" them to make similar changes. So see yourself as a role model rather than an object of guilt for others. And if they ask "what are you doing" tell them one change you made "I'm bringing my own lunch and snacks to work" and leave it at that. Change happens when we choose something to change. It's much easier to focus on one good change than to try to change a whole system all at once.

Kudos to you for getting back on track!

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SOXYINMO 8/13/2013 7:24AM

    I HEAR you! I don't know what it is or why it is, but that guilt is real. I don't know if it's some human thing making us wanting to fit in with the pack, or what.

I'm so happy you are doing so well! I love when that switch in our minds flips and we realize we're enjoying how well we're eating, and what we're eating. Good, good, good for you!!!!
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