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Self-image--No makeover needed!

Monday, August 12, 2013

As I continue to read through my huge stack of health magazines (my favorite pastime), I came across the following sentiments and thought I would share:

"You're Beautiful the Way You Are--No Makeover Needed!"

Think you have big flaws that need fixing?
You're the only one who sees them.
In fact, the only changes you "need" to make
Are the ones that make YOU feel better!

Today I didn't necessarily wanted to, but I "had to" get my haircut. Going to the beauty parlor--and more precisely, sitting in front of a mirror--is something I literally dread!!! The girl that cuts my hair knows this, but once in a while she stills asks "why" it bothers me so much. And then the inevitable reply, "But you have such a pretty face." (The phrase anyone overweight hates to hear!)

This is a painful question for me to answer. I am not comfortable in my own skin--and more importantly, I don't see "me" when I look at my reflection in the mirror. I see a person with a plumb, round face that doesn't fit the image of myself I have always had in my head.

My wonderful husband of 26 years--bless his heart--sees the "real me." Always has & I love him dearly for it! He doesn't see my round face--he sees "me," the person I am on the inside. And when I see his adoring glances every day, I can--at that point--feel like the me I know (in my head).

I guess what I'm saying here is that maybe I do "need" to make a change--just for "me." So that I, too, can see the "real me" when I look into a mirror--the person my husband so lovingly recognizes when he looks at me every day.

And the way to make that change is to continue on with my healthy, weight loss journey--by exercising more, fueling my body with healthy food, and reminding myself that no one else sees my (so-called) flaws but me. Hopefully, then, my poor self-image can be repaired! Thanks for listening, friends!


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
MEADSBAY 11/2/2013 11:39AM

    I, too, struggle with this.
I love my inner self but not my body.
I work on accepting myself every day.
We are lucky to have husbands who love us through thick and thin.

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JUST_BRENDA 8/19/2013 7:52AM

    That's wonderful, to have such a supportive hbby. it makes such a difference.
try to be kinder to yourself. we can treat ourselves to badly. It's discouraging, not motivating.

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BRADMILL2922 8/19/2013 4:11AM

    We can be so hard on ourselves sometimes...or all the time. It can be hard but I think it has to be easier with a great husband like that who sees you for who you are! He sees the inner beauty as well as the outer beauty! That is love! :)

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CAPECODBABE 8/13/2013 8:41AM

    emoticon blog! We are our own worst critics.
You must be doing something right to have a husband who loves you (for 26 years)
You need to love yourself now, and work to be all you want to be.

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FRENCHSEAMS 8/13/2013 12:16AM

    Well, having a round face isn't so bad. On the other hand, if losing weight makes it less round keep that ticker moving to the right!

It's fantastic that you have a hubby that loves you. I bet you are gorgeous to him. Beauty is subjective and yes, it would be great to see yourself through more loving eyes.

Comment edited on: 8/13/2013 5:24:54 PM

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IAMBIZI 8/12/2013 11:36PM

    Thank you for all of your support to me since I joined the forum.
Day one is almost done.
I am glad that you have a hubby who loves you very much and you love him.

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