Saturday, August 10, 2013
It's been a long time since I've updated! Life marches on, doesn't it!
Mom has had her ups and downs with Alzheimer's, but at this point is doing pretty well. Her short term memory . . . well, it really doesn't exist much, but she is happy. She does enjoy reminiscing (which definitely is part of what goes on at her age anyway), so do lots of that with her. Dad is so wonderful to her but have to constantly assess HIM to see where he's at in terms of needing help. He never was and still isn't one to ask for help even though he may need that life line. So, constantly reminding him that it's ok to ask for help! And to take it when it's offered.
Today is my son John's 21st birthday. Don't know where all the time has gone, but he's definitely a wonderful young man and we're proud of him.
It's kind of a bittersweet day, because last August had such life-changing events happen for him. Last year on 12 August he left for Afghanistan and 3 days later he lost 3 of his comrades, so that weighs heavy on his mind and ours. We'd met these fellows at their graduation from Basics just a month prior. **SIGH** Then 3 days later on 18 August John was wounded. His recuperation during this year has been physical, psychological and spiritual. Fortunately, he has lots of support and is doing much better than was thought when he was first wounded.
Sadly, there is the high probability of his being medically discharged due to his injuries, but no definitive timeline. This is not what he wants, but he is determined to stay in Alaska. So, he's taking each day as it comes. We are too. Wishing he would come back home, but he loves Alaska. Go figure, eh!
Time stands still for nobody! My baby, Clara, is 18 and starts college in September. My baby! Very proud of her. She is not sure what she wants to major in, but we keep reminding her that her first two years are mostly general required courses anyway, so she's got time to figure it out. Right now she's leaning towards nursing (ok, have to say, that makes THIS Mom's heart proud as I am a nurse too)! So, we'll see where this leads her. She is smart and will do well no matter what she majors in.
What led me to think about this past years events? Deepak Chopra has a meditation challenge and I want to share it with you. The underlying message is sometimes we have to change our perspective about things . . . change how we perceive things. Easy? NOPE! Definitely not. I know for me, this is so important. With both my son's wounding and Mom's diagnosis of Alzheimer's, it was like a sucker-punch to the gut, BUT through sparking, the lesson I learned is that there are events and situations that we can do nothing about. All we can do is control how we handle our reactions to the situations. When I read this piece, I just though, that fits right in with what I have to work on -- changing how I handle situations when I can't control them. It's very empowering!
"The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are." Joseph Campbell
Today’s message and meditation celebrate the magnificence of your radiant, joyful spirit. If you could see your body as a physicist can see it, you would observe atoms or particles moving at lightning speed around vast, empty spaces. These particles aren't material objects at all. They are fluctuations of energy and information in a huge empty space. And what is this space? It is the womb of creation, the field of all possibilities. It is the same place that nature goes to fashion a galaxy and to fashion a thought.
This field of pure potentiality is within you. It is your inner space that gives rise with amazing fertility to all of the divine qualities of the universe, including love, grace, abundance, joy, creativity, and freedom. You are a unique expression of everything in existence, and you shine with the beauty of a million stars.
There is a beautiful saying in India’s ancient Vedic tradition: “If you want to recreate the world, look at it with fresh eyes.” Today have the intention to see one thing as if for the first time. Look without the camouflage of your memories. Sometimes the hardest thing is to truly see someone we have known for a long time, such as our partner, child, or friend. We assume we know who they are, and so we stop seeing. It is also important to look at yourself as though doing so for the first time. We may assume that we know ourselves, but as we are discovering, who we are is much more than our limited ego-mind can envision. Through the eyes of your true self, take a few moments to consider how truly magnificent you really are.
Existence, consciousness, bliss. Deepak Chopra
As we travel down this road sparking, remember. Look at the world with those fresh eyes, a fresh perspective. Don't limit your possibilities, because our possibilities are limitless.
If anyone would have told me 3 years ago I'd be where I am now, I would have thought them to be mad as a Hatter! But, truth be told, this journey has made me a much stronger person physically, emotionally and spiritually. That's what life is supposed to be all about. It all comes from within.