Friday, August 09, 2013
I have a group of friends I meet with approximately monthly, and last month someone noticed and commented on my weight loss (40 lbs and counting!). Suddenly the one comment turned into a flurry of "Omigosh you look so great; how much have you lost; how long have you been doing it, etc. etc. etc." And then the big one: How Did You Do It??
I launched into the list of changes I've made over the time I've been sparking: changes to the way I eat, increasing my exercise, the attitude shift I had at the spa, and being accountable on the web site. Bla bla bla bla.You can see the details on my spark page and other blogs, I won't get into it here. The point is that I've changed a lot of things over time, thoughtfully, intentionally, and worked hard to make them the habits of a new lifestyle. I didn't just put them on like a new pair of shoes and stride away 40 pounds lighter.
Not, unfortunately, what my friends wanted to hear. They joked and smiled about it, but they wanted me to have one simple solution to hand them: I went on the X diet; I do the Y exercise video every day; I joined Fatwatchers Anonymous; I became a vegan Buddhist. Eventually I joined the joking, "I was taking my cow to market and traded her with a stranger who gave me a handful of magic beans. I ate the beans and my hips instantly melted away!"
There isn't a simple solution, not even "eat less and exercise more." Healthier body size is a very individual thing. Different for different people. We all have to work out what makes us succeed and then persist with it. If there are magic beans, they are Keep Doing What Works For You. Don't quit; don't give up. Experiment some more, tweak your program, but keep going through plateaus, through injury or illness, through the changes that life throws at us.
Spark on, brave sparkers!