Thursday, August 08, 2013
Sudhir and Me--During my Cancer Treatment in 2007
Looking back on 6 decades is perhaps what I've always been looking forward to since as far back as I can remember.Daft??yes possibly mad too but since my early years I've yearned for an opportunity to hark back to "When I was....."!!I look back to see a mostly blessed and charmed life--one that was replete with the best of all that Life has to offer---a fabulous,innocent and healthy childhood,an extremely happy marriage,two fabulous daughters and above all spending 42 years with the man I adored and who adored me!!
Our relationship was as mad as we were--both of us impulsive and forceful when astride a whim---arguing hotly about anything and everything under the Sun--if I said East he had to say West!!Yet we were like a pair of Siamese Twins joined together by a very thick,invisible bond.I still remember one of my very dear friends--Jacob Aunty--who considered me to be her daughter asking me once--"If you give in after each heated argument why don't you just not enter into an argument at all?Much less stressful for you both"!!It was much later that I began accepting her advice--I think after my brother-in-law Milind's death on February 24th.2001.The fragility of Life struck me then when the loss hit the remaining siblings very bad--specially Sudhir for he was frozen in shock and unable to give way to his grief.It was a traumatic period for us for we belong to an extremely close knit family and both the brothers were very close since Sudhir's birth.I still recall the way Milind had recieved the news of his brother's birth.Milind was 4 years older than Sudhir and on being told that he had a new brother, reached the Maternity Hospital loaded with Toys that he had bought from the money he had been given to have fun with at the local Fair!!Since my childhood I'd seen Milind being very close to Sudhir and therefore his awful practical jokes when we were newly wed is one of the most hilariously irritating moments of our early married life!!Having grown up a long distance away this was what I wanted--the boisterous life of a joint family!!
Milind's death was a turning point in our lives---we sobered up a little.By now both our daughters were married and living abroad and we realised that this finally was "our" time.We began making impromptu Lunch plans.If Sudhir had some time at Lunch he'd ask me to join him for Lunch at the Taj or The Oberoi and we'd spend time enjoying a leisurely Lunch together.Later he'd the drop me at The Rhythm House--our favourite Music Store where I'd spend hours browsing and buying all our old Favourites in both Indian and Western Music.Tea would see us at The Samovar in The Jehangir Art Gallery enjoying the sylvan surroundings of the vast,lush Green gardens of the Museum next door.These dates got a temporary break for 6 months after my bout of Dengue Fever but resumed later till Cancer struck me in November,2006.Frankly in both cases Sudhir was the main factor in helping me cheat death by getting me to the Doctors in the nick of time and thus saving my life.It was during the two back to back massive Heart attacks that I had on 16 February 2009 that had actually put paid to my time on Earth--but it was his frenzied battering of my chest that revived me and the consequent immediate hospitalisation ensured I survived.We began to lead a more sedentary life than before as the dietary measures put a break on our eating out.It is thanks to Sudhir that I've cheated Death thrice---and now have to wait my turn in the line!!That's why I think it is Sudhir who should be feted on my Sixtieth Birthday--for had it not been for him I'd have become a Photograph on the wall long back!!