Action Plan - Part 3 - "Supportive" people
Tuesday, August 06, 2013
I just can't help it - I'm feeling ruthless..
6. teach people how to treat you
This is one of the most common gems I give out to others who are being used by opportunistic friends, or feel bad because their new eating habits are "inconveniencing" others - ESPECIALLY family
One of my faults is making excuses for those around me, and holding on to them for too long, just because we've been friends for years, or because they are family - regardless of how drained or down I feel after socialising with them.
These are the people who say "go you" or love to tell you how you should be eating right, exercising, etc, then get their hair in a tizz when you don't want to go drinking on a Saturday night or would prefer to go for dinner at a restaurant with healthier options rather than a pizza joint - then proceed to tell you that you're becoming obsessed and that you need to "chill out", that they go out far more than you, and still manage to keep their weight under control, so clearly you must be able to - and clearly you are not eating as well during the week as you say (I realise that some people DO actually get obsessed, but you know what I mean).
These are the people that only support you when it suits them, and it benefits their needs..
After recognising a few of these people in my own life, and a few swift NO's - I haven't heard from these people since, and it speaks volumes - it's a freeing feeling - I feel like I've got my goal abs already!