Good Morning; I think the hardest thing that I have to manage is my DH. He is not used to sharing the chores. The funny thing is that he hates to do chores and rarely does them. I have asked him to include DS. He gets fussy. He wants to get them done fast on his time line. I asked him to child proof the cabinets. DS asks us to give him chores. We are concerned about his back. So DH went to get the child proofing kits, he showed them to my DS. We gave them to DS with a drill. He did them faster than my DH who is not very good at being handy. DS said his back was hurting but he was so eager to show us that he can do something positive. I kept having to tell my DH to let DS do it. Like it was a competition, DH's ego was hurt b/c DS could do it better and faster. DS did not complain one time and he had a face full of accomplishment after he was done. He would lie on my floor of my kitchen with a drill. I was impressed - now I know he was uncomfortable and in pain, but this showed me that he does have the desire to get well. Today I want my car cleaned out - I have some sugar ants in my car. DH got up early and wanted to get it done b/4 DS got up. I have to stop him b/c we told DS that he could help. You would not believe the face on my DS. He felt so good about himself. Normally DH doing things like this is like pulling teeth. I gave my DH other chores that he is doing. I have heard of competition b/w fathers and sons. DS is not competing just wants to be doing something to feel good about himself. have a good day!!
IMHO, sometimes having a husband is like having a small child. DS, needs projects to help take his mind off things, and give him a sense of accomplishment. DH should man up and recognize this and give praise to DS for job well done. 1219 days ago
I believe that is a normal father son competition going on, DH has to prove he can still do it, and DS wants to prove he is a man the same as his Father, sounds quite healthy to me 1219 days ago
Sounds like there is a little peace in your household today. Glad that DS and DH are working together (competing maybe) for some father/son time. Prayers and hugs continue to be sent your way. 1219 days ago
I am thrilled to hear how well DS is doing. You've got your hands full keeping DH in "check" but it's definitely the right thing to do giving DS chores so he feels that good feeling of accomplishment with each chore completed!
This is what I worry about with my own DS. He got JAG counsel and it now appears that medical discharge is inevitable. He wants to stay in AK if his discharge happens. So, he has to find a job, place to live and support himself. But he's working on that. So, we'll just have to wait and see what happens!