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Decision to make

Friday, August 02, 2013

I have an 88-year-old aunt (who was really our family's matriarch, and like a grandma to most of us), who seems to be in her last days.

I will consider attending her funeral in Canada. However, there are a few complications:

* possibly an MRI and a KU Med Center appointment to re-schedule
* expensive airline tickets, etc. (Depending on the dates I google, costs vary from around $700 to $1100. I guess I could spring for either, if I decided to, but, I'm struggling with how to make that decision. I'll try to priceline it, and that might reduce the cost by several hundred dollars.)
* some anxiety about flying alone. I seem to get stressed over things that did not used to stress me, prior to developing multiple sclerosis.

Please think of me (and, send up a prayer or two, if you are a praying person) while I wait for updates on my aunt's situation, and attempt to make the decision about whether to attend the funeral or not.

A side note -- I was recently in Canada for our vacation, and had an awesome visit with her. Other family members said that her good days were very infrequent. Often she would not get out of bed; some days she wouldn't open her eyes. The day that we were there, we had coffee and doughnuts with her in the nursing home dining room, and a nice visit. It felt like a gift to spend that blessed time with her, so soon before the end.

~ Faith

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
FISHGUT3 8/4/2013 7:43PM

    For myself, MS and flying also concerned me but I found that it was a lot easier than I thought. I do not know if you need a cane or wheelchair for mobility but the cane I use was instrumental for early boarding and all airline personnel were more than happy to help. It is a lot less stressful than I thought it would be, Good Luck

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MAMABUGAZ 8/3/2013 4:32PM

    Last week Wednesday or Thursday, Aunt Betty was not expected more than a day or so.

By Friday morning, she'd improved enough that she was somewhat responsive, but she still was not expected to live through the weekend.

Today, they transferred her from the hospital i back to the nursing home. She has continued to make improvements and will now converse and is taking jello by mouth. I don't think that, currently, we know what to expect.

Thank you to those of you who responded, and to those of you who prayed and thought of me. At this point, I will just table making any decision for now, and wait to see what the future holds and make a decision at a later date.

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IMREITE 8/3/2013 1:45AM

    it is difficult to make travel decisions when money and health are considerations.

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    I'm so glad that you did have a wonderful visit with her. I understand your anxiety about traveling, but only you can make that decision. Either way, you will celebrate her life and what she has meant to you and to the rest of your family.

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LIVE_AMAZINGLY 8/2/2013 6:26PM

    If you do choose not to go, you have the wonderful memories of your last memories with her. It is really special and meaningful that you got to be with her for such an awesome visit. If you choose not to go, don't hold onto any guilt over it, but instead concentrate your memories on the last wonderful visit you had with her.

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MAMABUGAZ 8/2/2013 12:22PM

    Thanks everyone. Like I said, stress is something I no longer handle very well. I seem to be better at avoiding stress by choosing what I say yes to, and, what I say no to. But, managing stress when there are events outside my control is more difficult for me.

Thanks for your prayers and your thoughtful comments..

~ Faith

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KNYAGENYA 8/2/2013 11:15AM

    emoticon I will light a candle for you and your family when I go to Church.

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KALIGIRL 8/2/2013 8:33AM

    So glad you were able to visit her - hope you can attend the funeral and celebrate her life
Thoughts and prayers to you and yours.

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FERRETLOVER1 8/2/2013 7:13AM

    You are in my thoughts. emoticon

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--KREN 8/2/2013 6:17AM

    Keeping you in my thoughts while you make your decision. Visiting her recently, in her last days, meant a lot to her, I'm sure. That seems to be most important. I hope everyone visits me in my last days. Karen

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ANDYGIRL1219 8/2/2013 12:39AM

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