Wednesday, July 31, 2013
Everywhere I look lately I'm seeing comments about team members not doing enough and not working hard enough. Yes, I'm guilty and fall into that category more often than I'd like to admit.
So, where do I go from here? A part of me wants to say forget it and either drop off the teams or go floater. Part of me wants to fight back. And a huge part of me just wants to give up.
No, I'm not looking for a million comments telling me why I should stay or what I need to do differently. I just need to say what I think without bringing down my teams or anything like that.
Maybe I need to be in a low pressure team where I'm not hurting anyone but me with the way my life is.
I dunno... isn't vacation supposed to be lower stress?
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Hey Holly - I'm reading this one late - because guess what, captains get really busy and behind on things too. LOL I'm happy to read this one after knowing that you already feel better about things.
You have it in you to succeed - you have done it before. Your current lifestyle isn't an easy one and you can't always measure yourself against those of us who don't have little ones at home (one with some special needs), while working full time and taking care of a husband who just had surgery.
Figure out what success looks like for you. Is it cooking at home at least 5 days a week, tracking nutrition at least 4 days a week, working out at least 100 min a week. It is important to feel some success-put some good goals together that you can make happen consistently. You can always add to it once it is routine.
Glad you are sticking it out with us.
1362 days ago
Like Yo, I am reading BACKWARD, but going floater or disappearing is def NOT the direction to go (and I know that is not where you are going to go). Sometimes at the very beginning of a challenge (and not even a looooong one like BLC which is 12 weeks or three months), everything is all rosey (you've got those glasses on then right ) and you have high hopes, goals and plans and then week six comes around and it's like drudgery and the time when you might have already thought that THIS isn't the just right team for you has come and gone (that's like week 3 tops) so you start to consider just slinking off but this is the BLC and no one is going to allow THAT to happen because you are not a faceless nameless # here in the BLC. Nope, nope, nope. You MATTER. So while I don't want you thinking TOO much about letting your team down, I do want you to think about this as a relationship. And we do expect participation (not perfection). There is no *I* in team. It is work. AND, surprise, surprise, it is a CHALLENGE and no....just because it is summer does not mean vaca and break. You signed up during this time frame maybe because it IS summer and you have less on your plate and thought you could devote more time to YOU? I don't know your "WHY" but we all have one. So, with three weeks remaining, and having read your current blog, you can know that sign ups for the next round are coming soon and you can make your choice about a new round/team etc. THEN but right now you have a few weeks to reach down and pull up those big girl panties and see what you can accomplish. Head on over to your team chat and tell them where you are and how you are feeling and I guarantee that there is one or two or HALF the team feeling the exact same way. Been there done that! You CAN and you WILL finish the round with a feeling that you accomplished something! I'd love to hear about it! Come on over to Azure Destinations, kick off your mainland shoes and take a walk on the beach with me!
1362 days ago
I know i have read your latest Blog and you feel a bit differently than when you wrote this...but I must comment and say it is NEVER a good idea to go Floater or Quit your Team because you think you are letting them down...That is Never a good answer...That is Precisely when you NEED to Draw Closer to your TEAM...and ask for that Help that you need to get you through whatever hurdle is in your way...Your TEAM WANTS You to SUCCEED...and I am certain, they don't want to lose you.
Remember The BLC is not a one size Fits All...Please do not feel overwhelmed or Stressed out...That is counter-productive to what is trying to happen. Instead, just Jump in Right Where you are...and Communicate...Reach out...(Just as you did in this BLOG) and there WILL be Reinforcements...Guar-on-teed!!!
We have just 3 weeks left...You CAN DO THIS!!! Push Through...It takes a Willingness and a Desire...You have that...You have the tools...No go forth and use them wisely. Put everything you know into practice...Go back the the basics...and Take is one Baby-step at a time...YOU GOT THIS!!!
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1363 days ago
When we as captains complain about the team not working hard enough it isn't because it is hurting the team as we so very much want everyone on our team to succeed!
I agree with Penny on this one. We take a lot of responsibility upon ourselves to make sure everyone on our team succeeds. It would be great to see our team's name in lights but ultimately we do not want YOU to give up on yourself!
I guess the question you ask yourself is would a low pressure team help you reach your goals? If that answer is yes then you need to move teams (we will be extremely sad though!) because that would be the best thing for YOU!
1366 days ago
I can relate it is hard when you feel like you are not keeping up with the program. But the good news is this journey is about you and doing the best that you can do. Hang in there and no matter which teams you choose to be on enjoy the camaraderie and support.
1367 days ago
My opinion, if you want it, is to stop worrying about letting US down. As a captain of one of your teams, if you go MIA or gain weight or just have a bad week in general, *I* feel like I've let YOU down. But that's how my brain works.
What I'm saying is, do what's best for you and if it benefits your team , , if it doesn't, well we will get over it.
1367 days ago
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