Tuesday, July 30, 2013
I used to consider my go with the flow nature one of my assets and now I am rethinking that. I think it is to a degree, but there is a fine line between "go with the flow" and just not having any boundaries and discipline to set a plan for myself and stick with it.
I guess what I mean is that often when I get into different relationships with people whether it is a friendship or a romantic relationship or whatever, i tend to just let the other persons schedule/plans/desires dictate how things will go. I say to myself, "well it doesn't matter to me, I am flexible" But it actually does matter. Because my success with my health, my finances etc are met when I have a routine. And I am doing myself a disservice by changing my routine to accommodate other people.
It is perfectly ok to say no and work plans around my schedule. I noticed that I gained a lot of my weigh back when I ended up with a boyfriend. As great as that is that i have a companion, I also noticed that I got comfortable blowing off my morning workouts when he would come over after his graveyard shift. I got comfortable eating out instead of my planned meals. I got comfortable spending weekends tucked in watching movies instead of getting out and doing activities. That is no good. I can enjoy all those things, but I have to set my boundaries and keep my routines and schedules and find balance for my various relationships.
From here on I am planning on making a schedule and protecting it and making sure I have ample time for my relationships to thrive also.