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Happiness Experiment - Day 12 (of 21)

Monday, July 29, 2013


1. I am thankful for connecting with old friends. Today, I was lucky enough to get to spend some time on my lunch hour with my friend, Mary, who I haven't seen in so long. She and her husband have 8 children, 5 of which were foster children that they adopted (most were special needs). Talk about amazing people. And yet they are just so down to earth and genuine. I love being with Mary and I don't know why I let so much time pass between visits!

And tomorrow I get to visit with my friend, Tammy, who I used to work with and haven't really spent time with since I switched jobs a few years ago. I know she has been working very hard to completely change her life and her body the past few years and I am so proud of her. I know it will be an encouraging and fun time for us!

2. I'm thankful that I have such a GOOD kitty! I was very nervous when I got her because I worried about behavioral issues and whether she'd be able to handle the kids and my long absences due to work. She has been just PERFECT! I go away all day long and sometimes don't come home til late and I don't find any surprises on my pillow. She doesn't have an attitude like so many cats do and she doesn't get upset with me. She is always wanting to be with me and cuddle when I'm at home and she is so good about using her litter box, even when I *forget* to clean it every so often. She is an absolute sweetheart. I wasn't sure if I could handle a pet, but she has been worth every single doubt and fear and I'm so happy I have her!

Also, I have cat allergies (like BAD ones!) and she has not bothered my allergies at all! The lady at the shelter said that long-haired kitties are actually better for people with allergies than short-haired and I thought she was crazy, but I went ahead and trusted her. And wouldn't you know it, she was right.

3. I am thankful for my ex-mother-in-law, who has been so patient with my lack of finances lately. I was stressing a little about the kids' back-to-school lists and she went ahead and got them everything they needed and said I could pay her back for half when I get a chance. My ex and I never went to court or went through any sort of legal proceedings or mediation. We just agreed on a total 50/50 split with no child support and waived our final hearing, in good faith that we would both treat each other well afterwards. So far, it is working out very well. We are able to work out every single hiccup and I believe the kids are so much more well adjusted because of it. I love that we (my ex and his parents - because they live in the home with him & the kids - and I) are able to work together on things like this. They could really make my life hell if they chose to, but they love my kids and, truth be told, they still love me very much too (and I, them). So, we all do everything we can for the kids. I know most divorces don't function this way. I am very, very lucky.


I find it hard to pinpoint one positive experience over the past 24 hours because there have been several comments made to me by various friends that have deeply touched me and that have made me feel so special. These are comments about areas I might be ashamed to bring to the light, for fear of judgment, but these amazing women have looked past my humanity and have seen strength in me and they have spoken their feelings to me. In several cases, I just haven't been able to respond because it means so much for me to come through what I've come through and still have people who truly believe in me and want me to be happy. So grateful.


I slept in past the alarm today and I was SO tempted to drive to work, but I had just blogged about riding my bike all week, so by golly, I was going to do it! AT LEAST TODAY! Haha. The ride there was glorious and lovely....save a few difficult hills, where I got off and walked my bike (whatever...still moving, still counts!)

The ride home...AFTER a full day of work was rather grueling. To be quite frank with you, when I got to the office and when I got home after work, I was sick to my stomach and just about ready to toss my cookies. This is when I realized just HOW overweight and out of shape I've allowed myself to become these past six months. Ugh. I hate it.

Because I hate it, I will keep riding to work. I can't ride tomorrow b/c I'm supposed to give someone a ride home, but I promise the rest of the week...I'm going to do this. It will be a personal victory for me.

Each day riding to work and back is about 5 miles and takes about 30 total minutes. I hope to see some improvements in how I feel after my rides by the end of the week.


I have the entire evening to myself. I can't wait.



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  • CLP1978
    Thanks for sharing. I look forward to reading your blog. emoticon
    1697 days ago
    Thanks for blogging your 21 days, my friend. I'm still doing mine in my Word doc journal, and thank you for it every evening as I do. :)

    I love that you and your ex took the high road. You're building your positive karma one kind action at a time.

    No fun to feel sick after a bike trip, but as you know, getting through this first hard stretch will reap the benefits of stronger muscles and easier, much more pleasant rides.

    I've read that being moderately hydrated and not eating a big meal helps keep the "overexertion nausea" away, too. (Definitely not an expert exerciser here, but I'll do almost *anything* to keep from throwing up!)

    Good on ya, girl! emoticon Enjoy your break tomorrow, and have a beautiful commute on Thursday.

    1697 days ago
    It's good to read your blogs, Leah, particularly hearing all the things you're thankful for.

    Well done on the cycling to work, too!
    1697 days ago
    Leah, your gratitudes move me every single time. Thank you for sharing. You are very fortunate to have such a "good" divorce. Mine was better than average, but not nearly as good as yours! Have a GREAT day!
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    Many things to be grateful for. Glad things are working out.

    Good for you riding to work! That sounds like a great way to get activity in on a regular basis. I have thought about it but traffic is pretty heavy. It would be 6 miles one way. Maybe I will try it some time.

    1698 days ago
    Wonderful. It's really great to hear you share your challenges and how you are facing them with such a positive attitude. Congrats!!!

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  • JUNEAU2010
    You are pretty fantastic, yourself!
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    I'm so glad you are beginning to see what a wonderful person you are--no matter what your past is. Love reading your blogs; they inspire me to be positive and do more. Thank you!
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