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JUST ME

Monday, July 29, 2013

You know what's really sad? I have this bad habit of trying to be what other people want me to be, and act how they want me to act. If someone expects me to be a certain way then I act that way so I don't disappoint anyone, or they won't stop accepting me.

This habit is bad enough, but I've found myself doing it on this page. I'm afraid to post what I want to post, say what I want to say, be who I am, for fear that some of you won't like me. (I hate getting "hate" mail, and believe me, I do get it.) And chances are, some of you won't ( or don't). But that's ok. That's what I've forgotten, that it's ok if not everyone likes you...it's ok if people hate you...because in the end that's THEIR problem not yours. (and not mine, either). I get so caught up in pleasing everyone else, that I forget to be the authentic "me."

Hate me, love me, I'm just me. I can't be anyone else.
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SHOES17 8/4/2013 1:43AM

    I have been thinking a lot about this blog. It is easy to try and be what everyone expects us to me. Sometimes we lose ourselves. Stop by and chat with the Unstoppable Angels. We have a very small chat group and it is really easy to be real there. Have a blessed Sunday

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RISINGBLUESTAR 8/3/2013 12:07AM

    I understand that you want everyone to like you and it bothers you when someone doesn't. Sometimes, it bothers me if someone doesn't like me either but you know what? Even though there may be some people who do not like you or see eye to eye with you, there are plenty of people who do or who will if you show your true self. :)

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CAROLIAN 8/1/2013 7:05AM

    "Be True unto thyself" my dad always said this
to hell with what others think
Don't worry about what some small minded people think or say I know it can be hurtful but ignore them I love you for who YOU are emoticon emoticon

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EDDYMEESE 7/30/2013 5:45PM

    HATE mail? Seriously?

Now I'm going to have to go find some of your juicy blogs...now I'm curious :) I'll let you know how it goes, lol, but I promise I won't send you hate mail..ha :)

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KNYAGENYA 7/30/2013 12:01PM

    Being true to yourself is one of the greatest gifts you can give to you. Who cares if people don't like you? It is only important if you like yourself. The great thing about messages is they can be deleted.

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DOVESEYES 7/30/2013 2:51AM

    Boundaries take a lot of work and need to be practised and used on solid people so that you get used to saying no or what you really feel.

Great blog thanks

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SHOES17 7/29/2013 11:59PM

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-WRKNG2ABTTRME- 7/29/2013 9:03PM

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BABY_GIRL69 7/29/2013 8:57PM

    It's okay if everyone doesn't like you.....it is just life...even the people who you think like you really don't. Learn to live, love and laugh and enjoy yourself and help others who need it.

God bless,

Dee

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MOM2ACAT 7/29/2013 6:00PM

    As everyone else has pretty much said, just be yourself!

If you get hateful Sparkmails, you can report them, and you can even block those people from sending you Sparkmail.

You also have the right to delete comments on your blog and Sparkpage if they are negative.

By the way, I love the pink geraniums in your background!

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NEVERORNOW 7/29/2013 5:47PM

    As long as you're being who God wants you to be, it's all good. :)

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SPARKFRAN514 7/29/2013 5:21PM

    this is your blog you should be able to say what you feel. it they don't like it stop reading and move on. why make your self look silly my saying mean things . we are here to encourage and support each other. I have been rally lucky just got one unkind remark so i hit delete. hang in spark friend you are a special person.

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68ANNE 7/29/2013 5:21PM

    I think it is good that you are just letting the real you come out on your page. Please don't change or try to be what they want!
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BEEJAY49 7/29/2013 4:48PM

    Please don't ever try to be anyone but yourself! You're right, if someone doesn't like you, it's their problem and not yours. They are the ones who will suffer for it in the end. Just be yourself always! :) HUGS!

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WORKNPROGRESS49 7/29/2013 3:30PM

    You are "unique/special" (one of a kind) So be you!! emoticon


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CHARMIN944 7/29/2013 3:24PM

    You be you. True members on this site can identify with you. Your posts can and does inspire others.

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SONYALATRECE 7/29/2013 3:12PM

    Acceptance is what I desired until my teen years.
Finally I have come to the decision that I WILL BE ME AS GOD DESIGNED ME TO BE. So if others have a problem, they need to take it up with my Heavenly Father.

Blog and write your true feelings. There are more of us who'll accept you for your honesty than not.


Sonya

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SILVER1369 7/29/2013 2:50PM

    There is only one you and you do need to be true to yourself. Here we are all on the same journey to lose weight. Together we can do it. Trying to please everyone else will never work cause you will never be happy. Hang in there and stick up for who you are not what others think you should be. emoticon emoticon

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BAMAJAM 7/29/2013 2:43PM

  Constantly trying to be a "people pleaser" is an uncomfortable way to live.-- There is a quote by Anne Morrow Lindbergh -- The most uncomfortable way of life is trying to be someone you are not.... (sorta like this)
Anyway-- you need to try to be your "authentic" self-- You will most likely discover that YOU are just fine! You have every right to your own thoughts, your own opinions, and your likes and dislikes-- AND you have every right to express them. Do not be intimidated, or bullied, by other people. Practice loving yourself and accepting yourself until your are indeed authentic in your own personality. Hugs!

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SHYFEMMEKAT 7/29/2013 2:17PM

    OMG, hate mail on HERE? Wow. Just wow.

I have been a people pleaser since childhood. It's taking lots of therapy to undo. I'm learning how to set boundaries without feeling guilty. I'm learning to believe in myself. I'm learning to make my own decisions and not feel like I have to consult everyone before I make the final decision. I am also learning that I am a child of God and that's where my value springs from. I know now that others folks don't determine my worth. Only God can judge me.

People can hate for various reasons, like GETFITMOMMY12 said. If you try to please everyone you will not only feel miserable but you could lose your sense of self and get "lost." I know I did for a good long while. But...you can find you way back to you.

Best wishes to you!

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TIKITAMI 7/29/2013 2:12PM

   
Haters bewilder me, I just don't get the need to waste energy being so negative. I've gotten hate mail, I don't bother reading it I just hit the delete button and BAM, magically gone.

Be who you are, if people don't like it they don't have to read what you write.



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CRAFTINWIFE 7/29/2013 2:07PM

    emoticon Be you (tiful)!

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LETHA_ 7/29/2013 1:34PM

    Approval seeking is a natural behavior in humans. We’ve all done it and we’ve all observed other people doing it. The struggle to find a balance between smooth relationships and confidently expressing our individuality is common to all people. Your struggle with this issue right now will give you insight when you observe other people struggle with this issue in the future.

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GERIKRAGH 7/29/2013 1:13PM

    I've gotten hate mail on SPeople but I figure it's their problem not mine.

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GERIKRAGH 7/29/2013 1:13PM

    I've gotten hate mail on SPeople but I figure it's their problem not mine.

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DAZZEEDOO 7/29/2013 12:57PM

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You can never please everyone, so best to just please yourself.
You have to live with You, so You should find yourself acceptable and then You won't be disappointed in yourself.
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Have a Great Week!
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GETFITMOMMY12 7/29/2013 12:56PM

    I saw something the other day, and I don't remember where it was...but it said something along these lines: People who hate you for being you, are just jealous because you are doing/saying things that they are too afraid to say/do themselves.

Or this one...Haters Gonna Hate 1 John 3:13 ;) Keep your chin up, and don't worry about those who say mean things...in the end, they are only hurting themselves.

Comment edited on: 7/30/2013 9:57:18 AM

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