GRATITUDES - This weekend was amazing. Mr. T. brought his kids to meet my kids for the first time. I'm pretty sure all of us were a little on edge, not sure what to expect. My kids have been seeing pictures and hearing stories of C & A for so long, they were literally shaking with excitement. So today's entry is pretty much focused on the exquisite time we had together.
1. I am thankful for a beautiful day yesterday. We were able to stick to our original plans of taking all 5 kids to a local public pool (that has two huge waterslides). I was worried because it looked like it could get rained out and they were saying the high temp would only get to 70 degrees. Well, it had to be around 80 and sunny with a nice breeze the entire time we were there. Perfect! We stayed for a few hours and, aside from a few temper tantrums (from MY kids, of course), everyone had an amazing time.
2. I'm thankful that our kids got along and, better, that they really liked each other. So many sweet, precious memories from this time together. We built a big huge mattress fort in the living room and all the kids camped out overnight after a spaghetti dinner, chocolate chip cookies, movies and popcorn. They were giggling until about midnight, when we finally had to lay down the law and sit there in their midst until they fell asleep.
Some sweet memories:
* My 5 yr old said to A, "If you fall down, I will give you a hug."
*At one point, Mr. T took 3 kids to the grocery store to buy a couple ingredients for dinner. This left me with my 5 yr old and A. We were sitting on the couch watching America's Funniest Videos and A just laid his sweet lil head on my shoulder.
*C was thinking about eating one last piece of garlic bread that had a bite out of it and I said, "Elayna (my 7 yr old) bit that, but you can have it if you want." He shook his head and said, "No, it's OK. If it would have been you, I wouldn't care. But I don't know if Elayna put her mouth on it." Haha!
3. I am thankful for peace and quiet. I had a nice time with my own kids this afternoon after the boys left. Then, took them to their Dad's for the week. The rest of this afternoon has been a great time to decompress.
I think one of the most positive moments from the past 24 hours that stands out in my mind was this morning when my two youngest were fighting (as freakin' usual). I was still VERY much in the land between sleep and awake and Mr. T knew I was not ready to deal with a screaming fight quite yet. He went out and addressed it very kindly and gently, got both sides of the story, asked them nicely to apologize to each other and pretty much resolved everything in about 2 minutes without ever raising his voice or making them feel like less. I was so ridiculously thankful and impressed. And it made me happy to see that he is going to be a great help and partner in parenting when we move in together in October.
He also broke up some craziness last night where my 7 yr old was stuffing her face between two mattresses and screaming (but it sounded like she was being suffocated by a pillow, so we kind of panicked). He urgently asked her to stop and she's very sensitive, so I think she thought he was angry at her. He then explained, "We aren't mad at you, Elayna. Not at all. We just don't want anything to hurt you. Because we love you very much." It was the first time I've heard him tell one of my kids that he loves them. And it really meant something.
I actually got some laps in at the pool yesterday! I only did about 300 meters, but that's more than I've done in a long time and it felt great!
I've also decided that I need to be more intentional about this part of the experiment, as it does make a difference in how I feel. I wouldn't be surprised if my dip in exercise was a driving factor in my depression last week. So, this week...I will ride my bike to and from work every single day. It will save me money and I really think I will feel great! Plus, I'll be getting to work and exercising...all in one shot. Total time saver! :) It only takes me 15 mins to get to work...about the time it takes to drive on the roads with traffic lights and get parked in the garage.
As I said, peace and quiet this afternoon and evening. Just perfect.
RANDOM ACT OF KINDNESS
I know I said I'd just check this off, but some have asked for me to spill the beans because they say it will help motivate them. So, here's a freebie for you...
Today, I was at the grocery store and a man (maybe 25) walked up and said, "Excuse me, ma'am." Of course, my alarm bells went off and I thought, "No" instantly. He said, "I've been walking for quite awhile and I am very dehydrated because it's hot out here. Would you mind giving me a dollar so I can get something to drink?" I was shocked when I heard my broke a*s say immediately, "Sure!" Then, as I fumbled in my wallet, thinking, "This is classic set-up. He could have a gun or try to rob me or attack me!" I took out a dollar and gave it to him and he said, "Thank you so much!" and walked toward the grocery store.
It wasn't even supposed to be my "Random Act of Kindness" but, after it happened, I realized that it was. Hmm...maybe being kind becomes second nature after something like this and that makes a person happier? Interesting.
A photo that makes me happy - from our recent cruise to Cozumel