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Things get better slowly

Sunday, July 28, 2013

I accidentally left my gympact set to work out 6 days this week. So even with all the stress of my dad dieing I have managed to workout 6 days this week mostly walking. Everyone keeps telling me I look like I have lost weight. It's this great new diet called grieving, please don't try it! It's weird cuz I haven't really been eating that great. But someone up there is giving me a metabolic pass it seems. Thanks to whoever that is, I appreciate it. Every other time in my life besides this, if something this stressful would have come. I would have turned to food to feel better and started shoveling it in. But this time I have really turned to walking and exercise to get me thru and make me feel better. Live and learn and put it to work, I guess.

It's amazing how every step of this process has been hard. I knew when someone died it would be horrible but all of the other stuff that goes along with it can be even worse. Like the hospital lost my dads wallet, they are doing an investigation. The guy who does investigations evidently works hardly at all. So waiting for him to come in and get on that is still a question, kinda need that stuff. Getting a death certificate, they told me that can take 60-90 days. You kinda need those to close any of his accounts and since he had a business, we are like stop stopped in our tracks completely. Today his Bonsai club leader if coming over to look a his collection and hopefully take some. Or just tell me what they are, that would be nice as well.

Funny thing is when all of this stress has been happening good has happened too. I am too blind to be happy though. Like I managed to get a job, it starts the week after next. Also my health card arrived and we can get pregnant finally and be covered for maternity. Funny how the stuff you are waiting around to happen suddenly gets very small when tragedy strikes.

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    Even when things are taken care of the best they can be it's a horrrible ordeal to lose a parent. My mom was sick and handicapped for 19 years and I'm a nurse and I still wasn't prepared for her to death. I guess I was in denial. It was the worst experience of my life. The good thing was my mom had everything set up where it was only grief I had to deal with and selling her houses and such. She had things set up where legally when she died everything she owned belong to me so there was not will and probate. My grandma's was more involved and took a year and a half to settle. My MIL's estate was a nightmare and lasted over 2 years and 2 months. I hope that the legal part of it is easy for you and your mom. It's enough to deal with the grief. I hope that you will keep in mind that above all else your father would want you to be happy. It might sound odd but it is the truth. emoticon

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THESB25 7/29/2013 3:36PM

    Thinking of you everyday. I guess the small good things are helping to ease the pain. Grieving is so hard, I can only imagine what you've been going through. Great job on working out everyday to help manage the emotional roller coaster. We're here if you need us!

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JPONCIN 7/29/2013 3:29PM

  I'm thinking about you.

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BEACHY_KEEN 7/29/2013 8:51AM

    I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Mom in January and I can tell you that it takes so long to get the business end done and it is a lot of hoop jumping and no, they won't do anything without the death certificate and sometimes the will or letters of administration. You're doing a great job taking care of yourself and I'm glad there are other good things going on in your life. I've been where you are and I know its nothing you want to hear, but things definitely do slowly get better with time. emoticon

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WISHICOULDFLY 7/28/2013 6:24PM

    I am so sorry to hear that you lost your Dad. My Dad passed away 19 years ago and I still think about him every day. You WILL rebound as that is what he would have wanted for you. I hope you can revel in the happy memories. That will help.

Here is hoping the new job is wonderful and you become a Mom soon.

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EDDYMEESE 7/28/2013 5:59PM

    Jules, I wish I could give you a big hug right now. I'm thinking of you.

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GEMINIGEM6 7/28/2013 3:32PM

    I am sorry for your loss. There's never a 'right' thing to say at a time like this except you are in my thoughts. :)

I am happy for you thought w/ getting the new job and your health card. :)

Big hugs.

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WETPTARMIGAN 7/28/2013 12:25PM

    I'm so glad you have found better ways to cope than opening the fridge. At times like this in my life, I have gotten a brief break from grief by doing something that requires my full conscious attention, like studying for a professional exam or trying to obedience train my ADD dog. It was good to think about something else even for just a little while and to make progress toward the future. My thoughts are with you.

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COOP9002 7/28/2013 11:25AM

    Praying for your peace and comfort today.

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PYNETREE 7/28/2013 11:16AM

    I am so sorry for your Loss.

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JEREMY723 7/28/2013 9:44AM

    I'm so sorry for your loss. My dad was diagnosed with ALS on July 17. Early on July 20 5,000 homes in our city had sewer backup from a storm, we had 2.5 feet. So, focus has been on our house and not my dad so far. Can barely imagine what is to come. Lost my father in law to pancreatic cancer 4.5 years ago. Certainly keep you and your family in my thoughts.

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