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Differences Between Abstainers and Moderators


Saturday, July 27, 2013

Back by Popular Demand: Are You an Abstainer or a Moderator?
www.positivelypositive.c
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Wow... Just WOW!

"If moderators try to abstain, they feel trapped and rebellious."

"If abstainers try to be moderate, they spend a lot of precious energy justifying why they should go ahead and indulge."

You're a Moderator if You:
- Find that occasional indulgence heightens your pleasure and strengthens your resolve
- Get panicky at the thought of "never" getting or doing something

You're an Abstainer if You:
- Have trouble stopping something once you've started
- Aren't tempted by things that you've decided are off-limits



Me, I'm a mixture of both.

An abstainer in regards to emotional eating, trigger foods and especially being gluten free due to a wheat (and other grains) allergy.

A moderator because I practice moderation, not deprivation and eating healthy as opposed to dieting.

Do you see yourself as either one of those?
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  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

SHARON10002 7/28/2013 5:02PM

    Thanks for the link to this article. I am a mixture. I abstain for the most part, but am not 100% hardcore. I don't think deprivation is the key. I don't go whole hog, but will have an occasional treat or cheat, but always get back into the swing of things.

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DEEGIRL50 7/28/2013 5:59AM

    emoticon I'm a mixture. I'm limiting the amount of sweets, but not outlawing them. I was hooked on Taco Bell until one day I decided "I'm not going there any more."

I like this blog! emoticon

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NICKYCRANE 7/28/2013 3:36AM

    Mixture at home. Dont have things like mayonnaise or crisps in the house, tho I will eat them, usually in small quantities, when out. Can eat chocolate in moderation when given it, tho dont buy it.
When out, I am a moderator. Eat rich food on rare trips to restaurants, but bring half of it home in doggie bag. Take home made trail mix with me when in town in case hunger pangs hit, and eatnit with a banana, insteadnof ice cream, pies etc.

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MADEIT3 7/27/2013 9:51PM

    I am definitely an abstainer. I do best when I consider myself a non-eater. Food is fuel for the body and definitely not for enjoyment!! Sad, maybe, but when "food is off the table" so to speak, but life is much easier!

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CERTHIA 7/27/2013 7:37PM

    A bit of both. My natural inclination is to be a moderator. Some things however ARE off limits to me, and I just have to accept and respect this.

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YOUDUNN 7/27/2013 6:41PM

    Hi everyone - you got me thinking with this topic.
I'm a mixture - depends what the temptation or reward is. All my life I've wanted to enjoy a balanced life, and learn to practice all things in moderation. I keep re-defining the goal.
thanks for bringing this up. Kae

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NANFITGRAN 7/27/2013 12:45PM

    I'm a mixture, too. I should PROBABLY be an abstainer on trigger foods, but I freak out and feel super deprived if I feel I CAN'T have my treats. I've gotten much better at curbing the binging on the triggers, only having them in moderation, and avoiding them in the evenings ~ my "danger time"!

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LETHA_ 7/27/2013 12:26PM

    For me abstaining is easier. Thanks for linking the article.
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GRAMMY7070 7/27/2013 12:15PM

    I am also a mixture.

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BARBARAJ73 7/27/2013 12:04PM

    I'm an abstainer. emoticon

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CHANGE4FIT 7/27/2013 11:58AM

    I'm with you, a little of both-might that be the ultimate moderator?

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SISSIE21 7/27/2013 11:05AM

    I am also a mixture of both.

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OOPSIEDAYZ45 7/27/2013 10:53AM

    I'm definitely an abstainer. I don't miss things I decide I can't or shouldn't have. And if I start to indulge I have a real trouble stopping. And end up kicking myself afterwards.

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WEEPINGANGEL74 7/27/2013 10:40AM

    I am some of both depending on various factors.

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MISSUSRIVERRAT 7/27/2013 10:27AM

    Both. For me, I think (maybe) it depends on the specific food....
abstain from peanuts & chips & sweets. Moderate the alcohol & pop corn.


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MICKEYH 7/27/2013 10:26AM

    I'm like you little bit of both. But I am not allergic to wheat... I think.

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COCK-ROBIN 7/27/2013 10:17AM

    Very good! I'm a little of both.

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MY1FAN 7/27/2013 9:57AM

    I'm a bit of both.

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SHERIO5 7/27/2013 9:48AM

    I'm a bit of both as well. I know I feel great when I'm fueling my body, but enjoying treats moderately. It's a fine line. But, I'm willing to walk it! I'll get this balanced!

Good question!

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-AMANDA79- 7/27/2013 9:44AM

    Moderator here! I love reading this stuff. I used to preach to my abstainer friends and didn't understand that it is just part of who they are.

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MJREIMERS 7/27/2013 9:39AM

    I'm a bit of both. I believe in moderation, but I do have a hard time stopping something that I start in regards to exercise...not food. I have learned something on this journey! emoticon

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CELEST 7/27/2013 9:34AM

    I used to be an abstainer, but evolved into a moderator. I now can have something small, enjoy it thoroughly, and call it a day.

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SANDICANE 7/27/2013 9:18AM

    What a great blog!!!! Thanks for sharing!!

Cheers,
Sandi

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AUNTB63 7/27/2013 9:16AM

    I am definitely a moderator although I don't panic over not being able to have something in particular. When I tell myself I cannot have something all I think about is that thing I cannot have.....I do everything in moderation with portion control.

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LANNIEMANUEL 7/27/2013 9:16AM

    I am a bit of both too.

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