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People Pleaser Rehab --1

Saturday, July 27, 2013

Here's a great website if you want to find out more about the phenomenon of being a people pleaser.

Are you a people pleaser? Here's "Ten Top Signs You're a People Pleaser"

Sociotropy --
a personality trait associated with the excessive need to please others


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
CHRISTASP 8/1/2013 9:11AM

    Hmm... I think the ten signs are pretty exaggerated. I think I am a people pleaser sometimes, also if my behaviors aren't as extreme as the article descrbibes them. I can relate to nr. 3, 5 and 7.

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KALIGIRL 7/27/2013 9:58PM

    Here's to saying yes to yourself!

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BLKLILY 7/27/2013 7:36PM

    Interesting...I am a good solid 3 of these things!!!

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BIGPAWSUP 7/27/2013 3:27PM


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STEFIGURL 7/27/2013 9:42AM

    When we insist on pleasing others at any cost, we almost ALWAYS wind up dissappointing OURSELVES! Thanks for sharing!


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KARENKANDO 7/27/2013 8:52AM

    This is quite interesting. Thought provoking! If I had to describe myself to others, I'd likely start with something like: I'm quite selfish. . . typically thinking only of myself and my own well-being. But the truth of the matter is, I care a great deal what other people think about me and I am highly sensitive to that. So on some level, I'm always doing and saying things that I think will be pleasing or helpful to others - regardless of what my own needs might be. But, I'm also a reactionary. When someone does or says something that I perceive to be critical of me, I react every single time without stopping to give it any thought. Not good! But I do that, I think, because I care so very much what others think of me. I keep this bottled up - trying hard not to let others know that I am truly that way. I don't know why that is - other than I think that if I let others know, it would make me vulnerable in some way. I said all of that, to say this: I'm a closeted people pleaser and I need to knock it off! Thanks for the post. You made me stop and "think" - and I like that. Alot! emoticon

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MRSVK11 7/27/2013 8:36AM

    What a great list! I used to wallow in solid 8 of those 10 traits I find that the older I get, the better I am at finding balance and I usually only struggle with a couple of those traits now.

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KYLIECAT1 7/27/2013 7:20AM

    I am such a people pleaser , that people often dont even give me the choice of saying yes or no , They just assume ! lol In my experience there is never going to be a change in my personality , and I dont think there is anything wrong with wanting to please people but there's a few reasons why in some cases its the wrong reason.. When it goes against what you believe in. When you do it from fear of rejection,When its really going to cause a hardship for you or your family. When there is no reciprocity from the people you are trying to please. I will always be a people pleaser and for me thats not the issue , the issue becomes a problem when in the act of pleasing others , you dont have any boundaries . Very good topic !

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RAPUNZEL53 7/27/2013 7:16AM


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LE7_1234 7/27/2013 6:59AM

    Very true.

Though I also have trouble when I really like the idea of saying yes, ya know? When I think I'm saying yes for me, not for someone else, but then realize that it's really not the right thing.

Hmm. Maybe it's time for this:
IOWL Episode 108: Making Saying No Easier by Saying Yes

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