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Happiness Experiment: Day 10 (of 21)

Friday, July 26, 2013

GRATITUDES

1. This morning I was walking in to my meeting, which was taking place at the Indiana Memorial Union (on the Indiana University campus) and I looked up and saw this and immediately had to take a picture:



I started looking around more and was amazed. And I realized that my very first gratitude today is that I am privileged to work in such a beautiful place.



People don't get to see this EVERY day when they go to work! I am LUCKY to have such lovely scenery and, after awhile, it's easy to take for granted.



Seriously...how do I just get used to this? It's like heaven for an architecture-lover too!



GORGEOUS!

2. I'm thankful that it's Friday. I'm looking forward to a wonderful weekend. Mr. T is bringing his kids down and I have my kids tomorrow. We are going to take them to the public pool that has 3 water slides and a diving well. They are going to have a blast! My kids are thrilled to meet them...and they are counting down the hours! Haha.

3. I am thankful for plenty of work to do to keep me busy during the day. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed, but I suppose the alternative is not having enough work, which is not only boring, but it would make my position somewhat obsolete after awhile. And, well, we just can't have that. Busy days = greater job security! And that is, ultimately, a good thing.

JOURNAL

I've been thinking about how "good" my kids have been the past few days and the thought occurred to me that maybe it's not necessarily that they are being any more "good", but that my response is changing. I think it might be due, at least in part, to this happiness experiment! I have just found that when they do things that would normally have set me off to yelling or anger, I have been better able to control my inner thoughts and get a reign on my temper before it spills out of my mouth. And I've been better able to verbalize everything to the kids.

For example, the two youngest will start fighting and hitting.

NATURAL RESPONSE:
ME: *Get upset and scream at them, just praying they will stop fighting.*
*Fighting gets worse, to the point that I'm in tears.*

RECENT RESPONSE:
ME: *GASP* "Guys! What are you doing?! WHY would you do that to each other? Haven't we been having a great night so far? Didn't we do....(list all fun things and funny jokes we have told, etc.) just an hour ago?"

**They stop to think.**

ME: (In a very, very animated voice) "I think...and stop me if you think I'm wrong...but I think it would be WAY cooler if we did NOT hit each other and get all upset. What if we actually just were nice to each other so THEN we could have a REALLLLLY awesome night? Wouldn't that be more fun? Hey, I think that would be so great! Let's DO that!!!! Want to?"

By the time I finish talking, they have already tuned me out and forgotten that they were fighting. LOL.

This approach is taking extra effort and vocal energy from me. But, for the love of it...it's somehow miraculously working!! HA!

EXERCISE

Nothing today. Boo.

MEDITATE

It's been a mellow afternoon, so I've had a lot of thoughts (as referenced in this blog). Lol.

RANDOM ACT OF KINDNESS

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KIPPER15 7/28/2013 11:35AM

    emoticon I think the experiment is really working!

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IAMAGEMLOVER 7/27/2013 12:09PM

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PATTISTAMPS 7/27/2013 11:44AM

    You R O C K!!!!

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WISLNDR 7/27/2013 7:33AM

    Great progress, your experiment is paying off! (Love the photos.)

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COCK-ROBIN 7/27/2013 1:05AM

    Such beautiful pictures!

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TRIXIETEXAS 7/26/2013 10:42PM

    Well now I feel bad for all the yelling I've done at my kids in the last 24 hours...oh wait, no I don't, they deserved it! (just kidding)

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LINDAK25 7/26/2013 9:51PM

    You do work in a beautiful place, lucky you. It's great that you've noticed how your attitude changes your kids behavior. Have a terrific weekend!

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JUNEAU2010 7/26/2013 7:09PM

    Sharing those pictures both of nature and architecture was definitely a kindness!

The new you dealing with the kids is AWESOME!

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ISLAMOM 7/26/2013 7:02PM

    Awesome....I really love it. While I haven´t gotten into the discipline of doing this everyday (and writing it down)....I have been getting into this mindset. Anyhow, I really love what you´re doing! Congrats!!

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GEORGE815 7/26/2013 6:51PM

    Great post!

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LADYJAJA 7/26/2013 6:28PM

  You really ARE blessed to work in such a gorgeous environment! Thanks for sharing the sunbeams! And....have a blast at the water park this weekend, lucky you! emoticon

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PATRICE_E 7/26/2013 6:08PM

    "Change your thinking, change your world!" I'm so proud of you for doing this practice and letting it seep into your most important relationships. "For the love of it..." indeed!!!

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P.S. If there's anything I can do to encourage you to erase those "Nothing today. Boo"s from your posts, please let me know, ok? xox

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RUNNERRACHEL 7/26/2013 5:42PM

    Beautiful pictures!

I really like the way you're handling the kids and changing your reaction, which is changing their reaction! Great job! emoticon

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WUBBY82 7/26/2013 5:05PM

    I think there should be a "Bring Your SparkFriend to Work" Day and I should be your guest. I'm just sayin'... :)

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