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When children return home.

Friday, July 26, 2013

One of my Sons has come home to live with me again. He has an apartment in Wisc and I live in Ill. He and his partner have 2 business locations and one being in Wisc and one in Ill they are only about 1 hours apart, but about 1.30-1.45 to my house

There is a falling out personally, but professionally they are still partners.

I feel for him as a mom... but he is a grown 34 year old man. I am treating him like a grown man. I don't pick up after him, I make him buy his own food, of course I share what is here, it is just that I DO NOT cook for him any more, I don't wake him up, or question what or where he is going etc...

I think the relationship is very different now, it is rather nice to talk to him as an adult. Of course I still tell him what I think of certain situations and I think he is appreciative of the fact that I'm still his mom and this is a haven for him as he figures out the next step for his life.

The pluses for me is that I now have someone who can help me with certain things! Last Sunday he helped me clean out the gutters. and helped me with cutting the lawn. Plus it is fun to make him laugh, as my kids have the same sarcastic bent as I do, it is rather funny when they get me with the things I used to tell then!

Life is full of surprises, never thought one of my kids would ask to move back home. I hope he stays long enough to save some real money to put down on a condo between the 2 locations.

Be open to what life throws at you...... make the most of it.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
FLORIDASUN 9/2/2013 2:28PM

    It's nice to enjoy a mother/son relationship in an adult way. AND nice to have the company and the help. As a mother who would DO anything to have her son around to even 'visit' are a very blessed woman indeed! Give that prodigal son and EXTRA big hug from me and tell him about my Josh...he will appreciate having a beautiful, caring mother like you in his world...just as you are appreciative and supportive to him. I'm so happy that you BOTH have each other...we all need our more than ever before with how crazy the world is. Hugs to you and a big high five for your mutual appreciation of each other! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SNOW_LEOPARD_74 9/1/2013 11:31AM

    Sounds like a great relationship you have established with your son!

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SUEPERWOMAN 9/1/2013 11:23AM

You have wonderful boundaries, and that's a very good thing for you and your son. I hope that his work situation works out. Enjoy him.

Love, Ginger

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TRI_BABE 8/29/2013 11:34AM

    Sounds like you are making the most of it, that is nice. I now enjoy spending time and being with my Mom, for the time being. That is nice.

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LEXIE63 8/6/2013 12:49PM

    I know that my eldest and I would struggle to get the balance right at first if she moved back home, but she knows I'm always here if she ever needs me, so we'd figure it out somehow. :-)
Hope you enjoy your time with your son. :-)

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BLITZEN40 8/1/2013 9:38PM

    I'm glad you get to spend some time with your son. Just because they grow up and move away doesn't mean you don't miss them and want to see them often. Enjoy the visit! emoticon

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OWL_20 7/30/2013 7:42AM

    emoticon attitude--very positive. Sounds like a win-win situation for now ;-).

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CASEYSAUER 7/30/2013 7:40AM

    Enjoy the company!

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IONA72 7/30/2013 7:03AM

    That is cool, you have the right approach! emoticon

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FISHER011 7/29/2013 7:35PM

    emoticon Good for you! Enjoy your time together & have fun like you are. I love having my sons living with me~I miss that!
And now I am in the situation of living with my Son Stephen! I have come to his home for a while.

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BIGPAWSUP 7/27/2013 2:23PM

    You have a beautiful attitude about the situation. I'm happy for you and your son. Best of luck.

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WINE4GIRL 7/27/2013 11:33AM

    What a great attitude! It's hard to make the transition from Mom to friend/roomie and harder still to straddle the line. Sounds like a win-win for both of you!

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PAMBWS 7/27/2013 8:12AM

    It's good that you can treat each other as adults, while still maintaining a parent/child relationship. Unconditional love & support is part of being family. Being able to laugh & his helping...that's all positive. Enjoy it.

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GARDENCHRIS 7/26/2013 7:55PM

    It is really nice to have him home again for a time!

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DEBBYFROMMT 7/26/2013 7:53PM

    Wow, and I'm getting ready to send my youngest off to college in a couple of weeks. I never really thought of them as coming home!

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TERRIJ7 7/26/2013 5:16PM

    I'm glad it's working out, but good for you for treating him like the adult he is.

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PRINCHESSA 7/26/2013 1:23PM

    hmmmm can I borrow him to come handle the lawn I didn't get to finish? & well, both went so long between mowings, that they'll be needing raking!

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HHB4181 7/26/2013 1:18PM

    sounds like fun! I live with my mother and don't enjoy it at all, so it's nice hear you're both doing well with it!

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KATHRYNLP 7/26/2013 1:15PM

    Glad you all had a great time together. emoticon

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BARBARASDIET 7/26/2013 1:01PM

    I loved having my son live with me, but we are both better off living separately.

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2BDYNAMIC 7/26/2013 12:45PM

    It's nice he felt comfortable to come stay for a while; also that he is able to lend a helping hand to you ............... Nice when we find the 'friend' in our kid, can have laughs with, share our thoughts, but minus the responsibility part ....... He must have confidence in you .......... enjoy the special time........ emoticon

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