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Pain and Joy!

Thursday, July 25, 2013

I am having another bout with a kidney stone. I have fought them for probably close to 20 years. I remember the first one I had, not knowing what I was dealing with and being in so much pain. After that, I always wanted to have some pain pills on hand at home in case I had another one. The pain with a kidney stone can be horrendous, worse than childbirth. I know that from experience. At least with childbirth there is an end in sight, and you are rewarded for your pain with a beautiful baby. With a kidney stone, you could be in pain for days. I've had the surgery a couple of times, where they blast the stone with ultrasound waves, lithotripsy, I believe it's called. I really would like to avoid surgery if at all possible, so I'm hoping I can pass this one soon. I have a doctor appointment tomorrow, that is as soon as they could get me in, so until then I'm on aspirin. Right now I feel as well as I have since last night when I woke up in pain. I've been fighting this latest stone off and on since our trip last weekend. I felt it coming on in the car on the way to Kansas City, but managed to keep the pain under control with aspirin, and the pain comes and goes, as the stone tries to pass, and then goes back into the kidney. What a PAIN, literally!

Du has asked me to try and remain happy through his cancer journey. I'm doing my best. But when I think about getting old and sick, as all of us will more than likely do as we age, and being alone, it really makes me sad. I am honored and privileged to take care of Du. For now, taking care of him doesn't involve much. Only making sure his pills are stocked, along with the supplements he takes, preparing his Pomegranate juice with the Mannose powder he takes three times a day, trying to avoid the foods he should no longer eat when I cook, and making sure he gets to the doctor when he should. He is so self-sufficient, taking care of his catheter and everything else he needs by himself. But I know the time will come when he will no longer be abler to be so self-sufficient. It will require me to do more, sleep less and work harder. I am up for that I hope. Every week I look forward to the weekend, when he is home with me. But every week that passes, I also know is another week closer to where we are ultimately headed and that makes it hard to look forward to those weekends. I want to make sure and treasure every single day, even the weekdays, when I only see him in the mornings and evenings. Last night we went for a walk in this beautiful mid-summer break from the heat we are getting here in Nebraska. I love our walks together. I love spending time with him. I dread the day when all I have are memories. But I am determined to make the most of THIS day and EVERY day, so that all the memories I have are good ones.

But when I think of being all alone afterwards, it scares me so much. Sure I have my boys, but they have their own families and interests and lives. An old, frail mom will not be their priority, as it would be for Du if he was healthy. He has been my rock, and I hope I have been his for all these years. To be separated from him will be the most painful thing I will ever have to endure. I try not to dwell on thoughts like these, but it's hard not to. And that kind of pain, I'm sure will be much worse than this physical pain I'm experiencing today.

On a more JOYFUL note....it looks like all systems are a "GO" with regards to my middle son and his wife adopting the beautiful Mia. This little doll, who will be 4 next month, will soon be a permanent member of our family and I am so happy for my son and his wife, as well as for all of us! They are going to be hosting an "Adoption/Birthday" party next month, using our house, since his is small. The adoption hearing falls ONE day before her birthday, so the next day will be all the more perfect--celebrating Mia's fourth birthday as well as her legally becoming a "Holmes!"


Isn't she gorgeous????
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DIANNEMT 7/30/2013 11:47AM

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REXTINE1 7/28/2013 4:48PM

    You have body pain and emotional pain, along with some joy. It's more emotion than a person should have to experience at once. Congratulations on the adoption, good luck with a quick end to the kidney stone, and sympathy for your care-taking. I wish I could help.

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KAYYVAUGHN 7/28/2013 2:54PM

    You are a wonderful wife. I do hope you feel better soon.
Since I work with foster children, I am thrilled about the adoption.
Enjoy this wonderful addition to your family.

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CTUPTON 7/28/2013 7:58AM

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GRAYGRANNY 7/27/2013 6:10PM

    Hoping the kidney stone is now only a memory and you have passed it.
Congrats on becoming a grandmother again with the adoption coming up!!!
My heart and prayers go out to you and hubby as you travel down this path that so many of us dread..........hang tough!!! emoticon emoticon

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TEMPEST272002 7/27/2013 2:50AM

    Hugs to you. I'm so glad you have such a happy event to celebrate together. Congratulations to all of your family on the official adoption of your lovely granddaughter!

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AMBER281 7/26/2013 11:49PM

    HUGS

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HOLLYM48 7/26/2013 6:29PM

    emoticon Such a bittersweet time in your life, Some good and some pain, I hope you can find happiness and take each day as it comes.


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JAOTAO 7/26/2013 5:46PM

    Hope you feel better and that the stone passes soon. You're right - the pain is unbelievable. I've had them several times - don't want them again! What a beautiful little girl! Blessings to your family. Prayers continue for all of you.

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DOODIE59 7/26/2013 2:57PM

    As always, Maggie, you are making the most of your situation. And your approach is one of the few things that you ARE in control of, so your response is a good one.

That is big, big news about Mia's adoption:) -- Lovely that it has finally come to pass!
Hugs,
Deirdre

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VONBLACKBIRD 7/26/2013 11:34AM

    Hope you feel better soon. Mia is gorgeous and know you all are happy to add her to your family permanent.

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KANOE10 7/26/2013 8:22AM

    emoticon I hope you feel better with your kidney stones. I am glad the adoption went through. Your time with your husband is precious and wonderful. I am keeping you both in my prayers.

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KITT52 7/26/2013 5:59AM

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LINDAK25 7/25/2013 11:39PM

    Hope you feel better soon! Wonderful news that Mia's adoption is coming through. That's great.

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MOM2ACAT 7/25/2013 7:03PM

    Congrats to all of you on Mia's adoption!

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KERRYG155 7/25/2013 5:21PM

    Congrats on the adoption coming true. It will be wonderful not having to wonder if she will be your granddaughter forever. You'll know she is. Now personally I think what you do for Du is a lot but that is what a great wife does and I know you are a great wife and you will always be there for him.

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MSLZZY 7/25/2013 4:34PM

    What a beautiful child! You are blessed to have her in your life.
So sorry you are looking at such a bleak future but you are
facing life head on. Please know that you are not alone. HUGS!

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LJCANNON 7/25/2013 3:34PM

    emoticon Congratulations to all of you on the Adoption!! My Mom always told my Youngest Brother (adopted as an Infant) that being "Adopted" meant that he grew in her Heart instead of her Tummy like the other Kids did. I know Mia will brings LOADS of Blessings to you all!!


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