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How do I stay happy and smiling and do *this* every day?

Thursday, July 25, 2013

Answer to this Question on the Staying Motivated Forum: Afraid I gonna get flamed but I have to ask......

Because I want to become the healthiest I can be. This is my second go-round with SP and I promised myself I would do things differently and I owe all my current success to keeping that promise to myself.

I also intensely dislike the word "diet". That's why I don't diet. I eat healthy and practice moderation, not deprivation. I put good fuel (food) in my body so that I have the energy to do all the things I need to do.

I made peace with the fact that if I have to use a digital kitchen scale and measuring spoons to portion out my food for the rest of my life I am absolutely 100% okay with that! Left to my own devices I can "eyeball" it however I know that all too easily it can become over-serving myself because my eyes are bigger than my stomach and I will give myself too much.

I have spent a great deal of my time working on my "inside" - that is, working hard to sync up my brain and my body so that I can be successful. It's super important to me to get to the root of my Emotional Eating and learn coping skills and mechanisms so that I make an effort to automatically express my feelings verbally instead of stuffing them down inside me with food. I made a promise that I was no longer going to punish myself for what other people said or did. I have every right to express myself, the same as them.

Food is fuel. I eat to live, not live to eat. That's an important difference for me to make to myself.
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    Something for me to remember Cheryl-Ann, as I struggle daily with this. My husband is extremely thin and fills the fridge and pantry with all the triggers I must stay away from. (He can eat those things and not gain an ounce, grrr). It's my challenge to finally succeed at not giving in to all the temptation constantly in front of me.
    I stumble a lot.
    It sounds like you found your way. Many thanks for sharing your experience and for the awesome post.

    1125 days ago
  • v DEEGIRL50
    Choosing foods that nourish us. Learning to use food as fuel and not for other purposes. Steps on the journey to healthy and fit. You're on the way!!
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    1126 days ago
    Thanks for your post and your honesty here. The key here for me, too, is to grow out of emotional eating -- to keep my feelings on one side and my nutrition on the other. One must get down to root causes and this does take time. I like what you say about measuring- I need to get honest here and use the scale and measuring spoons and cups more.
    1126 days ago
    Great post!!!
    I so empathise with what you wrote about emotional eating! I still have a lot of progress to make in that department, but I am doing progress for sure!

    Every time I have a desire to overeat I try to spend a few minutes thinking what is it that i really want, and what other ways i can find to fulfill this need! Usually for me, the root of my overeating is stress, and talking on the phone with a friend has been proved to be a great alternative to eating a hamburger!

    1126 days ago
    Thank you for posting this. I never would have seen the thread otherwise, and I went back to read the original post and responses. I can relate to the woman who posted the questions. I have come back to SP after an absence and needed to read this!
    1126 days ago
    When I saw the link, I had to go and read the whole thread. Great question with great answers! One comment that resonated with me was the need to change one's attitude toward food. As I read the struggles of those new to SP juxtaposed with replies from those who are having varying degrees of success, I thought back to when I started SP. I think I also was angry and resentful that I couldn't sit down and eat all the chips, cookies, and candy that I wanted to. But I chose not to cut them out entirely, and over time, my attitude did change.
    1126 days ago
    What a positive great blog!! We all need to learn from you. emoticon
    1126 days ago
    I just love your blogs! You always say what I need to hear.

    Sounds like you're doing great this time around! emoticon
    1126 days ago
    emoticon blog!!! emoticon for sharing!!
    1126 days ago
  • v SISSIE21
    Wow! Very inspiring blog. Only someone who has traveled the same path of despair can understand the power in your intentions and promises to yourself. Thanks for sharing this! emoticon emoticon
    1126 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/25/2013 10:03:25 AM
    You're 100% right! And, I agree that it's about becoming healthy and strong. We "eat to live, not live to eat." Keep up the positivity!!

    1126 days ago
  • v SHERIO5
    I could have written this!

    I think I got mad that once I lost weight I couldn't just relax..stop tracking and measuring...but I regained, duh! So, I'm with you , if I have to track, or measure, so be it. Friends who have been maintaining say it gets easier, you know the go to meals and snacks, tracking may not be needed...I will get there, and so will you! emoticon
    1126 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/25/2013 9:44:01 AM
  • v GAILANN48
    From where I stand, your reflection and your answer to this young woman were "spot on"...and they were good for me, too! :) And yes, somewhere along the line, we have to swallow hard and begin to act in ways that will take us to where we want to be rather than where we've been. It's all about choices...and follow-through. Thank you for your wisdom and your example, my friend.
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    1126 days ago
    Great blog and I think you are 100% right!
    1126 days ago
  • v ELMA1913
    Great blog. I don't "diet" either - to me it is my way of life and I am the only one, in the end, who can make the choices I do.
    1126 days ago
    Great blog!
    1126 days ago
  • v NEWTON1068
    Keep pushing my friend,I really like your honest perspective on emotional eating. I realize everything is tied to my emotions. Im fighting with you. It doesn't matter how many times you stumble..its your ability to perservere and get back up that counts....Stay strong-Karen from Ohio
    1126 days ago
  • v CARRIE1948
    Good luck. The measuring and healthy eating is easy - it's the emotions that we have sated with food that are hard.
    1126 days ago
  • v NUTRON3
    Good blog
    1126 days ago
    SO TRUE! I hate the words diet and skinny. I want to be strong and healthy.

    This is also my second go-round with SP and this time, I've changed my mindset! I decided to choose to be positive no matter what life throws at me. That's life, the bad moments are there to make me appreciate the good moments.

    You ROCK! Excellent blog.
    1126 days ago
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