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Sh*t people do to women.

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

On two different forums yesterday and today I have seen two different person accounts of twits at the gym treating other people badly:

Found this yesterday:

"I woke up feeling confident, curvy and sexy. I went to the gym as I often do. I am 43 and overweight by society and medical standards. I have also lost over 100 pounds, but strangers would never know that. I was standing in a hallway type area, looking at a class schedule hanging on the door to one of the classrooms. A very young, tiny, fit and toned looking gal comes up to me and asks me if I need help. I don't think she worked there. I said I was trying to see if any of the BodyPump classes were offered at night. She kinda laughed at me and said I should wait to try that after about 50 pounds are gone. And that maybe I would like AquaFit classes instead. I just smiled and laughed, looked her straight in the eye and said in a very squeaky and condescending tone ... "oh sweety, and maybe you need to eat more food so you're not so lightheaded and ignorant regarding things you know nothing about!" ... and just went on my way. The look on her face was priceless. I hope I see her in one of those BodyPump classes, maybe I can sit on her and squash her, lol. But seriously, what would YOU have done? I keep thinking maybe I could have handled it better or something."

And this today:

"Today is the first time I have been made to feel uncomfortable lifting in the weightroom.

I was doing deadlifts and this couple of dudes kept staring at me and laughing. I tried not to let it bother me but it did and I got flustered and ended up knocking the risers over with the end of the barbell which just made it worse.

I really wanted to finish stage one on a high as I have really enjoyed it and this pretty much just pee'd all over my parade."


Sh*t like this pisses me the F*CK off. In our world, if you are a woman, you are less. And if you have any meat on you, you are even less than that.

How are we supposed to "LOVE OURSELVES" and all that crap when we are constantly told that we aren't good enough? How can we feel we deserve to be happy, when everything tells us we are wrong?

F*ck that sh*t.

I'm done with trying to "love myself" in order to make up some sort of deficit. No, what I would like to see is for us to take back the respect that should be given us. I don't deserve to be thin. I deserve to be valued as a human being regardless of my stupid f*cking weight. What an idiotic thing to judge a person by anyway.


In other news, I decided to follow the meal plan from the Drop 2 Sizes book, but I have modified it in several ways. First, if I'm hungry, I'm going to eat. Second, I am using whole milk when it's called for. Third, I switch out meals for equitable calorie and protein, and I sub out veggies I don't like. Fourth, NO F*CKING STEAMED BROCCOLI. Blech. And I'm much more lax - I'm not committed, I'm trying to figure out how the heck to eat to support a weight lifting program while also reducing calories enough to lose some fat. We'll see what happens. I have to give it a month or so to note any differences. If I can make it that long.

I've noticed that I like a bigger lunch and a smaller dinner. The other day I made tofu stir fry, which includes 3/4 c brown rice, 5oz tofu, and 2 cups of stir fried veggies. At dinner, I could only eat about half of it - and I struggled. But the next day for lunch, I ate the same portion no problem. So, the menu plan has bigger dinners (even though it says that it prioritizes breakfast - haha, nope), and I'm having smaller dinners but having bigger lunches. I had 5oz of tuna at lunch today, but 3 oz of pork at dinner. That works better for me.

I'm following the meal plans because they give me some ideas about food to eat, and how to distribute my foods.

The fresh produce is here! We have been eating peaches, plums, cucumbers, zucchini, potatoes and now corn - we get it from an organic farm nearby. The prices can't be beat - I bought 10 homegrown peaches from the farmer's house for $3.50 today. It's been pretty easy to get my 5-a-day. Although lately it's been more.


My other news is that my touch screen went on my phone. I took it in to get fixed, but my insurance didn't cover it because it's an ordered part, so it would be $50. Well, the NEW phone I was interested in was $99 - the HTC One. My neighbor works at the Sprint store, and he showed me another phone I liked. Unfortunately, the Sprint store is horribly overpriced, and although he sold me on another phone, he isn't going to get the commission. To give you a frame of reference on how Sprint marks up their phones - the One there is $200 if you're up for renewal, but it's $99 on Amazon.

I'm getting the Samsung Galaxy Note 2, which is a phablet - a phone tablet. I hardly ever use my phone to talk, but I do use it to check facebook, read articles, and stuff like that.

So today I ordered the new phone (from Amazon - and I'm saving about $120 from buying it at Sprint), and spent hours looking at cases. I got a flip case that is like a wallet, and I'm also going to get a heavy duty case since I'm not going to get their full insurance protection plan. It is so expensive, it's better just to buy a phone used if something happens before my phone is up for renewal.

I'm excited to Spark from my new Phabulous Phablet!!!
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Member Comments About This Blog Post
    You are so phunny!
    Thank you for your righteous indignation.
    I am trying to be more aware of these issues.
    btw- I hatehatehate going to my book group (all older women) or, even worse, hosting it, and watching 10 women pretty much IGNORE a coffee table laden with fabulous munchies that someone spent hours preparing for us!
    Believe me, I do NOT!
    I like to model eating enjoyment for my friends.
    1543 days ago
    If anyone did any of those 2 things to me I would likely be arrested for assault. I don't take crap from anyone and people thinks that makes a witch then so be it. I'm nice as long as you don't piss me off and I like it that way.
    1547 days ago
    People are way too mean and cruel these days, I enjoyed the first lady her response to the thin chick. People are really rude these days~ emoticon
    1548 days ago
    Wish I didn't understand this so well. :(
    1549 days ago
    This is one of the reasons I have been really intimidated about the lifting section at our gym. Add to that the fact that the muscle heads are speaking in another language so that I don't even know what they are saying, if they are trying to be helpful or hurtful, and it's instant paranoia! Who can work out properly when they're paranoid that EVERYONE is starring and laughing? I follow this fabulous lady lifter (and tattooer) on instagram (sillysilje) but she's always posting her meal prep and her work outs etc she is awesome and inspiring. I WANT to lift I want to be STRONG but I'm such a chicken sh!t about the lifting section which is smallish and way full of dudes :/

    1549 days ago

    You will appreciate this interview, I believe. I thought of it as soon as I read the first woman's acct. I think we're seriously screwed up as a society. There are so many trivial things that get in the way of people coexisting. It's just nonsense. Grow the f*ck up and treat people with respect.

    Phablet, how fun is this word? These phone companies should get their act together. I buy off amazon way more often than walking into phone store to purchase overpriced techy stuff.
    1549 days ago
    1) People are a-holes and it drives me crazy.

    2) I love phablet! That's such an awesome term!
    1549 days ago
    sorry you had a bad experience at the gym. mine is so small and everyone is so nice well the times i have been their but i don't do weights or they might laugh at me too. don't let it get you down they are just unhappy they can't do it
    1549 days ago
    One of the reasons I don't do gyms, the nasty glances, the put downs because you are not perfect "like them" Such shallowness. Oh well I look at the fact they will get old and shrivel up, just like the rest of us. And they have to look at that person in the mirror the rest of their lives. She should have lost her job. The gym is supposed to be for improvement, not disaprovement. Idiots. Best thing is to just ignore the jerks, or position yourself where your weights are above their heads, and whoops, sorry dropped it!!
    Take care of you, who cares what they think!
    1549 days ago
    Grrrr! I hope that young woman DID fall on that twit and squash her!

    Good luck w/the new phone.

    HUGS and you have nailed it with this blog.
    1549 days ago
    emoticon There are a LOT of Meatheads out there and they are Full Of S#*t. I am not sure what the Best Way to handle them is -- Especially when you are in an environment like the Gym where you likely see them often.
    emoticon For the Record, although the Majority of Meatheads are Men, NOT All Men are Meatheads. And not all Skinny, Fit Women are P%#*ys. The ones who are give Everyone a Bad Name.
    emoticon I am looking forward to hearing more about your Phablet and whether you like it after you have had it for awhile.
    1549 days ago
    It's drives me absolutely nuts that women are judged for not going to the gym, but still judged for going!! PICK ONE. Even better, mind your effing business, people!! I don't get people who think there's a weight limit for working out. I also frown upon the fact that most of the judging is woman on woman. Should we really be sh***ing on each other?? NO.

    That aside, I myself also prefer the big lunch to dinner. I feel less blah when I eat more in the middle of the day. A large dinner puts me right off. Sounds like you're figuring it out for yourself, nicely done.

    Enjoy your Samsung!!
    1549 days ago
  • LETHA_
    Loved your blog post. Made me laugh out loud.
    Rock On My Friend!

    1549 days ago
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