Wednesday, July 24, 2013
On that same Super Soul Sunday program I talked about in my earlier blog, Tony Robbins talked about self-sabotage. What resonated with me is that he said that we all have a story that we fall back on to explain why we have not achieve our goals. That story becomes a belief that we internalize and make into fact. He said that you may not even realize you have a story.
For example, your story may be that you are big boned and thus, you do not make any head way in losing weight, because your are big boned and suppose to be heavy. It doesn't seem like a story, but it is.
Tony said that the stories we create is our efforts to camouflaged the real emotion - fear.
I thought about this for a long time. And, he is right. I have many stories that have held me back, not only with weight loss, but other aspects of my life. And what all of my stories have in common, just like Tony said, is fear. Fear of failure.
As silly as it sounds, I acknowledge that I am fearful that I will never be the flat stomach, tight behind and petite woman I think I want to be. And my story allows that myth to keep going because I am focus on a "look" rather working towards a goal of weight loss, more energy, and more active lifestyle.
My story: I can't look like that because I am too old and my body won't look like that. And even if I did lose the weight, so what, I can't wear a bikini because I am too old.
That's it. A silly story based on age and a single clothing style. Now, how dumb is that? Okay, I am a senior, but I have not limited anything else I want to do based upon my age in any other aspect of my life. Yes, bikinis are nice, but they are not the only option that can be flattering and sexy. And, really, it is not like I am going to wear a bathing suit 24/7 and all year round.
It is just a story that is camouflaging my fear of failure. It is self-sabotage.
So, guess what? I am changing my story. Drawing upon the tool I learned from Ms. Vanzant, I am re-adjusting my vision and getting rid of my fear of failure. Age and a single article of clothing will not sabotage my effects to become more active and eat healthier.
I am focus on the immediate present - 10 pounds and 20 minutes of exercise per day. That's it. I am visualizing how good it will feel to be able to walk up the stairs without huffing and puffing and to be able to wear something in my closet I can't wear right now.
Changing my story with small steps. I refuse to walk in fear any longer.