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What's His Motive?

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

I have a significant other that's constantly offering me sweets and fast foods. He does more than offer. He pops up with the stuff. He knows that I'm trying to lose weight. He keeps saying that he prefer that I'm heavier. I'm kind of thinking that he's getting a little insecure as I lose weight. How do I deal with him?

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PURPLEPEONY 9/11/2013 7:02PM

    I went through the same thing. My SO is naturally slim and when I started losing weight he would bring home all types of fattening goodies he knew I love, he`s never done that before. emoticon

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PURESTILLWATER 7/24/2013 10:59PM

    Like others have said, talk with him. Reassure him that as you get hotter you won't leave him and will still love him, be honest with how it makes you feel.

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NANA-JEAN 7/24/2013 9:24PM

    I think that everyone has given you great advice.

My hubby used to do this to me too. I got him more involved in the cooking and eating healthy process. I was on spark about 3 years when I finally got the initiative to push him a bit and say "LOOK I am trying to get healthy!", you can either bury me early (keep bring me JUNK to eat), or hey I can try to maintain my CKD and be healthy to live longer.

I wish you the best - I know how hard it is - but it a process - communication and consistency go a long way.

Take care of you!
Jean emoticon

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DARLENEK04 7/24/2013 7:09PM

    Sounds like sabotage to me. If a healthier you threatens his security, then
he needs to adjust. I'd tell him he is contributing to your health issues, and
just because you are losing some weight does not mean you want to lose him.


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GOLFGMA 7/24/2013 4:46PM

    Communicate to him and find out if he is insecure with your losing weight and let him know that he can bring this food over, but, that he will have to eat it because you will continue to try and be healthy.

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DIANE7786 7/24/2013 4:06PM

    Reassure him that you love him regardless of your size. Tell him you want to lose weight for your health. Talk about how much better you feel after losing a few pounds. Suggest small gifts you would appreciate--maybe dark chocolate covered strawberries or nuts.

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