I have been driving myself nuts trying to find where I saw this! It was someone's reply to someone else's blog. The blog was about how the writer wasn't sure she wanted to restrict her calorie intake for the rest of her life.
This Sparkfriend's response resonated with me so much I copied and printed it out and put it near my computer. I've read it every day for a week or two. I don't know why I didn't write down who said it, but I didn't, and I'm sorry because I can't thank that person directly! But what she said has really helped me keep my eating in perspective:
"Today I live by calorie restriction, but I hate that clinical word. I prefer "planning", and even after 40 years I plan each day to the ounce. Sometimes I am hungry, but not really. Last night I thought I was hungry, but I'd eaten a good dinner, so it wasn't hunger, it was what I call "The Itch."
"It isn't food in my stomach that I want, but the feeling of chewing and swallowing, feeling it go down. And that desire doesn't end with fullness, it ends with an empty bag. That's why I keep NO snack food in the house, it's too easy to grab; so I have time to go through the script: I'm not hungry, I want SOMETHING but I don't know what it is. Maybe I'll...do my nails, wash my hair, play with the cats, pull a few weeds, anything to divert my attention. i have learned that the Itch only lasts 20-30 minutes, IF I don't give in. If I give in, it lasts until I'm done, and wallowing in despair. Which in turn triggers The Itch. I just need to get through that 20 minutes, divert my attention, knowing down to the marrow of my bones that it will pass.
"I have over 40 years of experience that it DOES pass. I look at my planner and see what my next meal will be, what time I can have it, and start looking forward to it. Every meal is like Christmas to me. We all plan for Christmas, make lists, get excited. Then it's over for another year. I only have a few hours until my next meal. I get THREE MEALS EVERY SINGLE DAY!!!
This is just an attitude that makes me not jut get through the day, but relish each time I get to eat."
Wow, isn't that a wonderful attitude? I'm working very hard to cultivate it -- after all, hunger isn't an emergency, it's an opportunity to look forward to and get excited about our next planned meal. Our meals are like Christmas, three times a day!!! I LOVE THIS PERSPECTIVE.
If you wrote this, or know who did, please let us know. Thanks for your long, insightful response to someone who really needed a paradigm shift. Thank you for helping ME by helping her.
SPARK FRIENDS RULE!!!