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Not that there's nothing to say...

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

but I'm running out of pre-work time to write stuff.

Seriously, I've had this running jumble of "why I blog", "I've been blogging pretty regularly since sometime in mid-2010", etc. I've blogged my way through two deployments of a son. I've blogged my way through celebrations, and whines, and about a ga-zillion pep talks to myself. Through half marathons, trips, triathlons, family sorrows... LIFE, in short, and all that can happen.

So have many of the folks whose blogs I follow. There's a lot going on out there in all our lives. The constant of blogging, to me, is all about motivation, and I have noticed over time, an evolution in what I need to blog about.

It's all about where you are on the journey at the time. I've thought about how my blogs are similar to my dad's "Ken's Komments" columns that he wrote years ago for a small town newspaper, and later for an internal employee publication at the company he worked for. I've thought about the differences between a private journal and a blog where folks are able to see what one writes.

I went back and observed that I have 84 pages of blogs here on Spark, in "outline view". Some of them are probably pretty repetitive. I went back to some of the dates of significance in my life and found blogs that didn't mention those things AT ALL.

Bottom line, there's the inner life and there's the outer life. There's the public face. I so liked this motivational saying:

The behind the scenes is what we all truly live. The highlight reel is the celebration blogs! So if all you've ever read of someone are their successes, it doesn't really tell you what they plowed through to get there. Knowing that YOU are capable of plowing through, too... priceless.

So I guess I'm down to a quick set of reminders: YOU are worth taking care of TODAY. Remember what you really, really want: to be cared for, to be healthy... and then give yourself that gift.

* Drink that water.
* Eat what's in the bag.
* Remember to go to recess.
* Breathe!

You're alive on the planet! Spark on! emoticon

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
BROOKLYN_BORN 7/26/2013 6:41AM

    Very insightful! I love that quote. It really says it all.
Keep on blogging!

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    Well, there's MY life!

You are indeed insightful, my Spark friend. I blog to crow, to whine and get pats on the back that I don't get in "real" life. Sometimes sweating the small stuff removes a bit of the burden on the big stuff.

I ate what was in the bag, skipped recess but drank my water.

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PATRICIAAK 7/24/2013 11:46PM


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SLENDERELLA61 7/24/2013 9:42PM

    Today I went to recess -- twice -- and I thought of you! I didn't eat what was in my bag, though, because I had walking shoes. Next week I will take some healthy snacks; yes, I will.

Your point about being able to plod through is profound and a sentiment I haven't read or thought about recently. That quote about comparing someone else's highlight reel to my detailed life is a great point, too. Thanks for that statement. This was a really good one!!

When I first lost the weight and then achieved a lower weight than I thought possible and then I was making great fitness gains, I had a tremendous need to blog. I wanted to share and convert everyone. I had so much to say. But I came to accept that each person has to find their own way. I can't do it for anyone else. My solutions may not work for someone else. I now blog for me and for motivation. I love to celebrate and share my highlights. I don't always share everything I've plodded through, but when I've wanted input from SparkFriends, it has always been helpful and accepting.

And, Barb, I think it's fine to share highlights and successes and celebrations. I don't think we have to share any heartaches or challenges or problems we don't want to share. We don't have any obligation to represent our lives in totality. We share what helps. You have the wisdom to know when it will be helpful to you or others and when it is just better to just focus on the positive! Again, thanks.

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CONCHA77 7/24/2013 9:19PM

    BLOG On!!!!

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KLMEIRING 7/24/2013 8:03PM


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GABY1948 7/24/2013 5:38PM

    This is a GREAT blog, Barb. You always are a straight shooter! I like that and we need that! emoticon

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EMMACLAIRE5 7/24/2013 3:33PM

    Love the quote. And though both the highlight reels and the behind-the-scenes collections are unique to us all, I think it's the daily stuff that reveals our common human-ness. We are most relatable in the small stuff sometimes. Thought of you also because Wednesday mornings during summer break I ride the 10 miles to our local Starbucks for coffee. However, I pack my own banana and Greek yogurt because Starbucks food, though tempting, is not on Emma's approved eating list. So, while reading, I am eating what's in the bag! Have a great day!

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_LINDA 7/24/2013 2:17PM

    Love that 'highlight reel' Spot on! Very few people would want to talk about their innermost troubles, feeling it would put off people. We would rather hear good news then bad.. But while its nice to put out those sunny everything coming up roses blogs, that doesn't let your friends know when you could use some help and support. Its not the true reality you are facing. The Spark community is very compassionate and caring. They are quick to support and rarely, if ever, critical. Its a rare treat to hang out in such a warm, loving, uplifting online community!

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DALID414 7/24/2013 1:51PM

    Love that motivational saying.

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FIFIFRIZZLE 7/24/2013 1:42PM

    What a great quote. This weekend I read over my old blogs and felt so good about where I have been in the last few years of Sparking. I find blogging so helpful, no matter the minutiae, it is my lfe and shining a light on it helps me to make the changes I need to make, and to see where other changes need to be. But it is so quotidian, I'm surprised that others want to read it too.
Except that we are all toiling along finding a way to get by as best we can, and that daily stuff is ...what we have!

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VIXSTERLU 7/24/2013 1:39PM

    Good point! I sometimes feel that my 'behind the scenes' is too negative and don't put them out there but journal instead. But you make a good point! Thanks for the insight :)

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DLDMIL 7/24/2013 11:05AM

    A great blog. I love reading your blogs, they truly hit home with me. Thank you for sharing your inner thoughts with us here on Spark. Have a wonderful day. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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OPTIMIST1948 7/24/2013 10:29AM

    Thank you for reminding me why not to compare myself with others. "Behind the scenes vs highlights reel" ... a precious, precious meditation.

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LEWILL1982 7/24/2013 10:21AM

    I love that! Your blog just gave me chills. I am so guilty of comparing myself to everyone else. I just need to focus on being me, that's all any of us can ever ask for!

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LINDAKAY228 7/24/2013 10:20AM

    Great blog and so true! I get as much out of the struggle blogs I read as I do out of the celebration ones. Reminds me that we are all human and I'm not the only struggling.

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DOGLADY13 7/24/2013 10:11AM

    I often think that my behind the scenes events are more boring than the highlight reel. And my highlight reel ain't nothing specisl. I am grateful for my friends who stick with me.

Thank you for your writings. Always worth the time.

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LESLIELENORE 7/24/2013 10:05AM

    Awesome blog! So true.

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DOGLADY13 7/24/2013 10:01AM

    I often think that my behind the scenes events are more boring than the highlight reel. And my highlight reel ain't nothing specisl. I am grateful for my friends who stick with me.

Thank you for your writings. Always worth the time.

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MSLZZY 7/24/2013 9:21AM

    The inner life and the outer life. What we share and what we keep to ourselves are vastly different. Thanks for making me reflect today. HUGS!

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LEANJEAN6 7/24/2013 8:50AM

    Oh Barb!--Yer blog is so timely!--Whatta morning I've had!--- Himself is a lot older than I am--and continuously ""puts me down""--I think it's him seeing hisself losing ground, so to speak, so he takes it out on me--I almost didn't blog this morning as I didn't want it to come out in my writing!----- I try to keep the blog upbeat and happy------some days are very hard for me living with this man----then I read yer blog, and I'm sitting here blubbering--So , in case you don't realize it, yer blogs help me--very much!!!--- I feel like someone in this world understands----Thank-you so much-Lynda

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NEW-CAZ 7/24/2013 8:40AM

    A great blog Barb, I love your attitude! emoticon

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AUNTB63 7/24/2013 8:34AM

    I really liked the quote and your thoughts about it. Today this hit home for me and I realize how true your words are. Thank you for sharing this. Have a wonderful Wednesday. emoticon

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NINJALINDA 7/24/2013 8:30AM

    I like that comparison between the behind the scenes and the highlight reel. ?That's giving me something to ponder for the day - thanks!

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MIRAGE727 7/24/2013 8:15AM

    I truly enjoy your blogs, Barb! I preach our mindset! It helps the soul and we are stronger for it!

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DEBRITA01 7/24/2013 8:13AM

    A great blog to start my day...thanks for taking the time to share today! emoticon

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WATERMELLEN 7/24/2013 8:09AM

    What a brilliant blog . . . so love that "highlight reel" concept. The struggles of the inner life are continuous, and the outer life: edited for sure. Not to be misleading so much, I think, as to provide that motivation and pep talk primarily for ourselves. So glad you made the time to write this today.

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KELLIEBEAN 7/24/2013 8:04AM

    Wonderful blog!


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