My friends vs My struggle

Tuesday, July 23, 2013

I have pretty much been the overweight friend for about as long as I can remember. I have never been more than the fat one of the group. At some point, I started making friends with other people who were big like me so that I could talk to someone about how I feel. About how I want to lose weight and about how I wish I could change my body. This might sound weird, but my slimmer friends don't understand my struggle. When I feel proud of myself for getting 5 miles in an hour on the elliptical, they're wondering why I feel like I accomplished something. When I talk about how hard it is for me to lose weight, they're not understanding that it's so hard to change everything that I've been doing for the last 10 years. I wish I didn't have to feel like I can't talk to all of my friends about everything. I really just want to be able to talk to all of them about everything and not feel like the this is all they're good for, or that I'm wasting my breath talking because they don't know what its like to the fat girl.
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    I think this speaks to many of us. I've been on both sides of the coin, but the outside world is usually very judgemental on people who are overweight . They think fat people are lazy & why don't we just not eat so much. They don't understand eating disorders , emotional eating, etc.
    I think you are on the right track. You've reached out to others who understand & support your efforts & slip ups & they others can still be your friends in other areas & when you start losing weight & your self esteem starts to rise & they can see a change , then maybe you can start sharing truthfully. They'll probably ask for tips

    Start believing you ARE more than the fat friend & they will, too. Good incentive is to go from the fat friend to the foxy friend & show them what you got under your fat suit
    Your ARE really pretty , Funki, so you will be GORGEOUS with some weight loss.
    emoticon Get a plan in place !!
    1644 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/24/2013 8:41:41 AM
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