Tuesday, July 23, 2013
I've been getting that a lot lately from people who know I've been working on losing weight. I can take the compliment sincerely from certain people, like my skinny friends who don't need to lose weight and I know aren't in need of losing anything, but when I get that from some people who could stand to lose a few (or fifty or more) pounds for their frames, I wait for the added part "how did you do it?", but more often than not, it doesn't come.
I know part of it is that I know it can be done with a little discipline, but the other part of me wants to think they're happy with themselves as they are and don't want to change. I have had real discussions with some people who seem to want to change their diets so they can be healthy, no matter if they have only a few or they have many to lose, but I'm sad that some people just don't think they can change or don't realize what they're doing to themselves at the weight they are.
I know I'm being judgemental when I think like that, but I would never say anything directly to anyone "OMG you're so fat! Lose some weight!" I know intellectually that not everyone will want to lose the weight. I know that change is hard. I know what it is to be fat and the judgement that comes upon someone who doesn't look "normal" to other people and everyone will have someone who thinks poorly of you, no matter what you look like.
I just want to reach out to the people who need my advice, but I need to also be patient and wait for someone to want the help. No one wants unsolicited advice. No one needs to be told what they already know.
I know I'll be there for the people who ask and I won't push anyone who isn't ready and doesn't ask. I'll be there to tell someone they look good when they're getting closer to their goals. The only thing I can do is be someone to listen to the other person, most of the time listening can be the best thing I can do for someone else.
In the end I just need to take the compliment. They're being sincere, no matter what they look like. "Thank you" is what they all want to hear.
Today's Holidays: Gorgeous Grandma Day, National Mosquito Day, National Hot Dog Day and National Vanilla Ice Cream Day.