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Monday, July 22, 2013

So sorry I haven't been active with you. Last Tuesday I received a phone call from my nephew. My sister was in critical condition and flown to Charleston Memorial Hospital in West Virginia. Everything has been a whirlwind for me since. It took me four hours to throw together everything my husband and I would need for a long stay. We were about to go on vacation to stay with my sister. When we were ready to leave to make the trip, I called my brother-in-law to tell him we were on our way. He told me not to go to Charleston, but to just come to their house. My sister had went into a coma. She had an aneurysm and bleed out into the back of her brain. The doctors told my brother-in-law and nephew to go home and come back the next day. He told them they couldn't operation on her, because she couldn't be stabilized enough to go through surgery. They said they were making her as comfortable as possible. I knew what was going to happen. I cried the whole 6 hour trip. We freshened up as soon as we got to my sisters house and left for another two hour trip. I did get time with my sister alone. I talked to her, prayed for her, and read some scripture with her. The doctors came in and ask my brother-in-law to make a decision to turn off the life support. He was so devastated and look at me. He said she told me if this every happened she didn't want to be left a vegetable. I looked at him and told him she had told me the same thing. Everyone left except my brother-in-law and me. We held her hand and wept as she slipped away. She had a look of peace that come over her as she passed. She was a Christian and is with the LORD. I am devastated as she was not only my sister, my heart, but my best friend as well. My brother-in-law has never handled any of the bills or a funeral. I have experience in both. My husband and I have been staying with him. I went with him and my nephew to make my sister's arrangements and order flowers. The hardest thing since when my grandfather died and I help my granny handle everything. There seemed to be a sea of faces coming into the house and at the funeral service. I can't remember most of the people who approached me at the services. There has been a lot of phone calls. Many people loved my sister. I handled the list for who brought food and tried to keep track of the dishes and pots and who they belonged to. I tried to keep the house straight. My brother-in-law's sister and one sister-in-law came over and help. I was so glad. I have been keeping track of the flowers, doing the thank you notes. The horrible thing is my brother-in-law is in such grief he wanted me to go through my sister's things the day we watched her slip away. I begged him to wait. The next day he wanted to start on it. It has been overwhelming. I cried through the whole thing. He couldn't even stay in the room as I went through it. Plus he didn't know where anything was. I have taken one room at a time going through things. He has finally been able to go through things. I know he is working through his grief as best as he can. It has been so overwhelming for me. My husband is very worried. I have gone non-stop since this whole thing started. I am doing it for my sister. The last good thing I can do for her. I am so grieved. Sometimes I can't stop crying . My poor little niece has her 13th birthday. My sister was her whole world. My husband and I took her out today for her birthday. I took her shopping, to get a cake and a candy bouquet then to dinner. It has been the first time I have seen a smile on her face. We come home and her daddy had another cake (ice cream cake) and gifts all wrapped up for her. My brother-in-law did get enough sense about himself to act like he was looking for a gift my sister had left for her. My sister didn't get to go get her anything, because she had been having headaches for 4 days. I had talked to my sister the day, before this she fell so ill. My brother-in-law put money in a nice card and faked my sister's signature. He came in an said I found this from your grandmother. She loves to get money. She was so happy to get the card. I don't know when I will be back on. I am still helping out and don't know when I am going back home. I am not eating very good. Not very hungry most of the time. Not getting enough sleep. Blood pressure has been through the ceiling most of the time. I am taking meds for it and getting it back down. Dizzy spells are worse. I don't say anything, because I have to do this. I know I need to take care of myself. I just can't get a handle on it right now. Please pray for me and my family. I tried to tell my brother-in-law about probate and what to expect. He isn't grasping it. I am really worried when it comes time to do all of that. He has been acting brave to most people and that had me worried. He had a major meltdown last night. I talked him back down and he went into his room and we could hear him weeping. I told everybody just to give him that space. He seem to be doing better today. My husband has been trying to help him to just sit and talk about everyday things and the LORD. He is a Christian, too. My nephew isn't a
Christian and he is so quite. He is grieving to quietly. My little niece hasn't cried in front of anyone. She is keeping it inside. So I have a lot to worry about. I pray the LORD will help us all through this. I don't think my heart has ever felt so very broken. I look to the LORD for comfort. Some of you know I just lost my last remaining brother right after Christmas. I am the only remaining one. I never though I would see this day. Pray for us!
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MARYBETH4884 8/27/2013 7:37AM

    I came looking for you because life here has slowed down and I've notice you've been missing! I'm am so sorry for your loss! It's sounds like the Lord has given you amazing strength and fortitude to deal with the situation! You are truely a blessing to your BIL and an amazing great aunt to a lost young lady. I am holding your family in prayer!

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QUILTINGBUDDY 8/12/2013 12:24PM

    Oh Sweet Dear Friend I'm so sorry to hear all this! You have been through so much recently! I have not been on here because I couldn't get into my acct and I just got that figured out after several days and now I see this. I will put you on my prayer list and God will bring you through this! Don't stop trusting Him now!!! Keep the faith and know you will be able to see your sister again in heaven. That is wonderful and I hope it will bring you much comfort.
I know there is a lot to be done, but you are the only you you've got so please try to take a break each day for at least 10-15 minutes and pray for the strength that only Jesus has. The WORD says He is our ever present help in times of trouble. Where else can we go but to the Lord? Take comfort in His love for you and accept all the help from your DH and anyone else willing to give it. You WILL get through this! He tells us Lo I am with you always, even to the end of the world. I know your world is crashing in on you right now but Jesus is truly bigger than all of it and He is with you.
Take care Honey and know that you have many friends here that are praying for you!
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WEGENERCS 7/27/2013 7:49AM

    My heartfelt condolences for you and your family. Sometimes words are so inadequate. Reading your words brings us all back to those times when we grieve so completely. Take the time you need and come back to us when you can. We will be here to support you.

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LIGHTHOUSEGIRL1 7/25/2013 10:02PM

    My heart goes out to you emoticon and I am so sorry for your loss. You have been in my thoughts and prayers. I will continue to keep you and your family in prayer as you help them through this difficult time. May you feel God's presence, guidance, and strength in the days to come. As you help take care of others, please remember to take good care of yourself. emoticon emoticon

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WORKOUTWITHPAM 7/25/2013 3:38AM

    Please accept my deepest and heartfelt sympathy over the loss of your sister. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. We are here for you, and we will help you in any way that we can. Take care, and keep in touch.

HUGS
Pam

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ALIHIKES 7/23/2013 7:32PM

    I am so sorry that your sister has passed away. It is so difficult to lose someone you love, and you have faced so many losses this year. It is a comfort to know that she is with the Lord. My thoughts and prayers are with you, your brother in law, your niece, and your family. My deepest sympathy,
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LITTLEBLONDIE76 7/23/2013 5:00PM

    So sorry for your loss. I know exactly how you feel. My sister went to be with the Lord two months ago today. She was a christian, so I know where she is, but it is still so hard. Praying that your heart heals a little more each day!

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CHICAT63 7/23/2013 4:36PM

    I am so very sorry about your loss, please accept my sincerest sympathies to you and your family. You will be in my thoughts, hugs !

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MONIQUEDVA 7/23/2013 4:05PM

    I'm so, so SO sorry you are going thru this horrible thing. My heart is with you & you are in my thoughts & prayers!!!

Much love!
Mo

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CRAFTINWIFE 7/23/2013 3:22PM

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PATJOONWW 7/23/2013 1:26PM

    emoticon Your sister would want you to take care of yourself, she doesn't want to see you yet! She would probably be telling you that.

So sorry for you loss. Prayers for your family.

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GYPSYROVER 7/23/2013 1:23PM

    emoticon My heartfelt sympathy to you & all your family. I am so glad you could be with her! emoticon

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4_MY_LIFE 7/23/2013 12:57PM

    I'm sorry about the loss of your sister. You are in my thoughts and prayers!

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OBIESMOM2 7/23/2013 9:49AM

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so very sorry. Please try to take care of YOU, too. Your sister would want that.

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USMAWIFE 7/23/2013 9:40AM

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I am praying for you and your family. You have been through so much in the past year.

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CALLIEZMOM 7/23/2013 5:53AM

  You are in my thoughts and prayers. May the good Lord grant you and yours comfort and peace. Please take good care of yourself through this difficult time.

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DOGLADY13 7/23/2013 12:35AM

    You know you are in my prayers.

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ANHELIC 7/22/2013 11:43PM

    I am so sorry for your loss and will be praying for you and your family. May God loving arms comfort you during this time of mourning. I just heard an awesome l
song and the words in it were God gave me my first breath and I will give him my last and spend eternity with Him. God bless you and your family.
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IMNOTSTOPPIN 7/22/2013 11:20PM

  I so enjoyed reading your SPARK page and thru your writings shine the love of the Lord. May his holy spirit bring the comfort that passes all understanding. God knew the right person to help out your brother in law, niece and nephew. One thing you know which is comforting she is in the presence of the Lord. I weep with you my sister in

Christ. May God continue to give you strenghth at this time.




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TKRYSTINA 7/22/2013 11:19PM

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FITFRIT 7/22/2013 11:16PM

    I am so sorry for your loss and will pray for your sister's family and for you and your health as well. Rest, eat, take care of yourself, Please.

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WISHNDREAMNDO 7/22/2013 11:01PM

    So sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers go out to you.

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