Life Is Not a Competition

Monday, July 22, 2013

Sometimes I worry that all my talk about losing weight and getting fit is annoying or harmful to others. I try to be mindful of other people's experiences and struggles and how they differ from my own. When I seek validation from others for how far I've come, for things I've achieved, I try not to do it in a competitive way -- I want people to be happy for me because I achieved something I set out to do. And I don't want that validation at the expense of someone else.

So it's doubly frustrating when I encounter someone who pretty much works in the opposite way. Someone who thinks that life is a competition and is constantly trying to prove to others that they are winning it. Someone who can only feel good when others are feeling bad, as being a winner means that there are a lot of losers. And it is triply frustrating when it's at the expense of someone I care about.

If anyone "wins" at life, it is the people who manage all the same stuff as the rest of us -- the struggles -- and also are a good and positive force in the world. People who have compassion and respect and are worth looking up to. People who put joy into the lives of others, rather than sucking it out. People who make other people feel like winners, not losers. These people are worth ten of the other kind, even if they have no ribbons or trophies on their walls.

That's all.
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    Ahhh...what a lovely, refreshing, positive, strong blog post to see today - thank you! I love your thoughtfulness here, and you look so young to be so wise! The one person who's my one really meaningful competitor is myself...because I know myself pretty well (I better, after 60+ years! LOL! :)

    Thanks again... Susan
    1704 days ago
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