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The Difference Between Weight Loss Success And Failure...

Monday, July 22, 2013

Knowing when to ask for help and support! emoticon emoticon

I firmly believe that the successful people on here who have lost great amounts of weight have done so because they know when to ask for help! There might be some exceptions to the rule that have done this solely on their own with 0 support system, but most of us have learned when to speak up and reach out.

When I lost 40 pounds on Spark people years ago, the second I hit a bump in the road I went running for the hills, and hiding in the cleverest of spots so that NO ONE could find me. You could Spark Mail me, you could post comments on my page, but nothing could bring me back to Spark People. I was too ashamed, and embarrassed that things were going downhill fast, and I didn't want to face the music. emoticon

Years later, I am here to tell you that is the wrong way to handle things. The reason that Spark People works is because it is the biggest, strongest support system anyone could ask for. At all hours of the day or night there are other Sparkers online, and I guarantee you they'd be more than happy to offer you some encouragement... but they can't help you if you don't ask for it!

I have 2 close Spark BFF's that I can turn to for help, I can talk to my mom or Grandma, I can talk to my Sassy Shamrock Gals emoticon (My BLC team on Spark)... or I can just post a status or a blog and get support from Spark Friends or maybe people that I never even interacted with before. Spark is a great source of positivity if you let it be! But just like any other tool, you have to put in what you get out of it. There are more people on here that care about you and want you to succeed than you might even realize, so never be afraid to ask for help!

That is what I learned through my years on and off Spark, and while I love celebrating my successes and victories on here, I also talk about my struggles... and I don't think showing our struggles makes us look weak, I think it makes us human. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SIMONEKP 7/28/2013 2:29PM


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NIKKICOLE83 7/24/2013 11:20PM

    That cat pic is so funny. You are right about most folks running for the hills when things get tough. I did the same thing when I lost 47 lbs with Spark the first time. As I slowly put the weight back on, I just disappeared. I was so ashamed. This time around, even if I don't post a blog or say much, I log on to Spark nearly every day. That is why we will be successful this time around.

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WORKNPROGRESS49 7/24/2013 9:42AM

    emoticon blog!!!! emoticon

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WEBEZE 7/24/2013 2:10AM

    Great Blog. You are so right. The support is here as long as we ask for it.

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BIKINIBLONDE17 7/23/2013 10:59AM

    I completely agree!!! It's funny cause as I was reading your blog, I thought about the days where I'm strong and I give to others that are struggling, that comes back two-fold if I need some help down the road. Very wise, thank you for putting this out there for us to share!

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MERRY_XMAS 7/23/2013 3:46AM

    You are absolutely right! When there is radio silence from me, I usually take my time to overeat... Yesterday it was a bad day for me foodwise. So I didn't track anything... But here I am again! Being here makes you accountable to all your friends and to yourself.

Sparkpeople is a great community!

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JACKSGRAN 7/23/2013 2:22AM


I can see that that is what Spark is all about. I've only been here for 6 or so weeks, but I'm amazed and thrilled at the help I have had so far. Thanks for being honest

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LOSIN_IT4GOOD 7/23/2013 2:11AM

    What a great blog! I agree 100% with you about the Spark Community and their never-ending support! I had also left and came back, and so glad I did!

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DAISY6871 7/23/2013 12:13AM

    SO very true Stephanie! Thanks for your post!!!

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KMCASSADA0515 7/22/2013 10:12PM

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SKINNYINMYHEAD 7/22/2013 10:10PM


Such great advice... very well said...


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CORTNEY-LEE 7/22/2013 9:32PM

    a good support system is essential to weight loss and a healthy lifestyle.

You are doing wonderful!

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MOTHEPRO 7/22/2013 9:11PM


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GEMINIGEM6 7/22/2013 8:47PM

    Girl this is SO true! I would be lost w/o Spark! I love my Spark friends and the support from the different teams I'm on. It makes all the difference in the world! :) You're one of em'!

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JIACOLO 7/22/2013 8:29PM

    Great insight. Thanks for sharing.

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