Monday, July 22, 2013
Today’s SparkCoach was about moderation. One thing that really resonated for me was the idea that you can’t and won’t and don’t have to be “perfect.” The message was this – when you strive for perfection and miss, it sets you up for a lack of desire to get right back on track the next minute or hour or day. When you strive for perfection and miss, it sets you up for guilt. When you strive for perfection and miss, it sets you up for anger and frustration with yourself and the people / situations around you that “Aren’t helping.” When you strive for perfection and miss, it doesn’t give you the freedom to listen to your body when it says, “I really am too busy / too hungry / too tired to go with the plan today.”
I feel like I’m hearing this message a lot lately – it was in a parenting magazine that I read last night. It said that cortisol (a stress hormone) levels are highest in working moms in the first hours of the day, when we’re trying to get ourselves and our kids up and out the door for the day. And that sometimes in those crunch times, things go wrong. “Perfection is not an option,” the article said, meaning that we can’t and won’t and don’t have to be perfect. We just have to get it right enough for everyone to make it through the day.
It’s a message I’m hearing a lot lately. But am I listening?