Friday, July 19, 2013
I'm reading "Made to Crave" by Lysa Terkeurst and just finished the chapter titled "The Curse of the Skinny Jeans" in which she talks about how common it is to have that *ONE* pair of jeans that we tie our success in healthy choices to. But we don't just see it as a goal....it's the holy grail of our weight-loss journey! Once we get into those jeans AND can breathe, stand, sit, bend over, and button with ease, we will be HAPPY! And then, everything will be great, right? Somehow we think that we won't be hurt by anyone's harsh criticisms, our significant others will lavish us with adoration, everyone will like and respect us. That pair, that one pair that whispers to you every time you see them in the your closest, will be simply magical.
What strikes me about this is how it seems to be rooted so deeply in us. I mean, for us it's the jeans. But look back to the 15th -19th centuries and women wore corsets so tight it rearranged their organs! And although not documented, I wonder if Egyptian women gazed longingly at hieroglyphics wishing they were stick-thin?!
But what is important is this: It's so not true. While those jeans or that clothing size may be a tangible result of some hard work and good choices, it doesn't DEFINE us. Boy, I've got my pair of jeans just waiting for me in my closet - yes I do - but if people don't like me because I can't wear them yet, are those the kind of people I want to associate with?? Heck no. And I cannot allow myself to have self-destructive thoughts about it either. I know my body's current condition is a result of poor choices, but that doesn't mean I'm not worthy. Besides, I already know that going down that road leads to eating which leads to feeling bad, which leads to more eating, more feeling bad..........
Clothing can't transform us or make the hurt go away. I believe only God can do that and He is my source of motivation. I believe the transformation of my body will be the result of the transformation I'm going through inside - to love myself and respect the gifts and health I've been given by making healthy choices with respect to food and exercise. I pray that if you're reading this, you're inspired to pin your hopes on something so much more substantial than a fashion. No matter where you've been or where you are, you can always move forward, so love the jeans you're in! : )