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Happiness Experiment: Day 6 (of 21)

Friday, July 19, 2013


I have to admit, I'm finding this happiness business a little harder than I originally thought it would be, as the days go on. The first day was super easy. But, you life goes on as normal, the newness of the "experiment" starts to wear down. Just as a brand new exercise and diet plan dies down after January 1st and is slowly forgotten by February 10th.

It's not that I don't have things to be thankful for or that I'm not happy. I do and I am. It's just that things that are negative compete with such force for my attention. I mean, it's just like Shawn Achor said...the news is full of depressing and negative things.

And, here is a confession that I'm not proud of. There is one person in this world right now that I hate. This hatred has developed recently...before this, I never hated a soul. But her...I HATE. There's no need to go into the why or what of the situation, but I can tell you she is an awful person. And it's difficult to know what to do with that sort of feeling when I'm re-training my brain toward positivity.

The only answer I can come up with is to do my best to let it go. Keep living my life. Keep enjoying all the blessings I have that are gifts and/or fruits of my dedicated labor as a successful, full-time working woman. Perhaps the best way to deal with someone so pathetic and petty is to just have a wonderful life without them.

So, I'll move on.


1. I'm thankful for a predictable, regular paycheck that helps me support myself and my children. I can't tell you how wonderful it is to know that I don't have to rely on help from my in-laws or my parents anymore to live my daily life. I feel like a real live grown-up now. And my credit score has risen by 100 points in the past 6 months that I've been on my own. I'm so proud of that. It's been so hard, but so worth it.

2. I'm thankful for this amazing town that is so culturally diverse. It has allowed me to try cuisine from around the world and come to experience a whole array of flavors and viewpoints and lifestyles. I would be a much smaller person - mentally, emotionally and spiritually - if it weren't for this town and the environment here.

3. I am thankful for sunshine. While everyone else complains about how hot it is, this California girl is LOVING this weather! Bring it on, Mother Nature! emoticon emoticon


Well, I wasn't supposed to see Mr. T until tonight, but he was a sweetheart and drove down last night again to be with me. We had a rather uneventful, but magnificent night together. How is it possible to fall deeper in love with a person every time you see them? I don't know. I just know it is.


Going to take a brisk walk this afternoon. And can't wait to sweat!


This is a great day for meditation. Work is very slow today...leaving a lot of time for thought.



Have a good weekend, everyone. Here's a Friday funny for you:


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
PATRICE_E 7/22/2013 3:53PM

    You GO Girl! Drop that coal you're intending to throw at Mr/Ms Petty and free yourself. Be the gracious person you really are and keep your boundaries as emotionless and solid as possible. We haven't chosen the easy path, just the most fulfilling one.

Shine on, honey!

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SLIMMERJESSE 7/22/2013 10:35AM

    As with changing our eating habits, happiness project is changing a lifetime of contrary habits. Not easy at all.

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IMAGINE46 7/22/2013 8:41AM


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GOSPARK45 7/21/2013 4:49PM

    Leave her to her bad karma. It will happen to her (and probably already is).
Don't allow her to bring you into her world. I know it's hard. But do your best.
Spark on!
Isn't love great? So happy for you.

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JUNEAU2010 7/20/2013 11:27PM

    Keep moving forward!

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REGILIEH 7/20/2013 10:14PM

    No one is worth the time to hate them!

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KIPPER15 7/20/2013 2:25PM

    Hating someone gives them power over you. Don't give her the power! So glad you are feeling better, love the sun. emoticon

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MSTWOMOONS002 7/20/2013 12:06PM

    Hi Leah;
Love hearing your daily new life is moving forward, as Dory says "just keep swimming" it's hard when you dislike a person to the point of hate, but this too shall pass. That's usually the time I remember the words of Jesus," Father forgive them for they know not what they do" I rely on my faith to make me strong helping me to be a better person. I'll pray for you to resolve this issue in your life.

Take care & be well, you can make it through this You are strong, kind caring & confident woman, rise above this You can do it.

Many Blessings Always Debby emoticon emoticon emoticon

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COCK-ROBIN 7/19/2013 9:47PM


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FRANCIEVW 7/19/2013 9:25PM

    Keep it up, Leah. Keep it going. Also agree on the weather!

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GOING-STRONG 7/19/2013 8:51PM

    When you find yourself in a situation where you just HATE someone, you gotta step back and let it go. It will eat you alive. You are wise to just move on and keep a distance. Don't let them have the control over your feelings.


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SHAPINGUP4ME247 7/19/2013 7:26PM

    You've got it right. Just keep living your life so brightly that your haters have to wear shades just to think about you. emoticon

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GEORGE815 7/19/2013 7:21PM

    Easy to be confused about that!

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RAEMARIE13 7/19/2013 6:38PM


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SHERRY28269 7/19/2013 3:31PM

    I loved the joke at the end! I take the motivation whereever I can find it. Have a great weekend! emoticon

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DEEDEE1102 7/19/2013 3:08PM

    Great blog and I love your positive attitude! I'm so happy you have found love!

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ELIZABETH5268 7/19/2013 2:17PM

    I LOVE that picture, I'm stealing it!

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IAMAGEMLOVER 7/19/2013 2:15PM

    I like your response to living a good life in spite of a difficult person in it. emoticon

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SHEL_V2 7/19/2013 2:13PM

    Loving the happiness process you're sharing. I'm not very introspective, so I have to introspect vicariously through some of my bloggier friends. I have simple tests along the lines of "was it just me, or did that suck?". Your mention of one person in the whole world you hate has me thinking of an old boss who was just about the most obliviously nasty person. People like that have more than one person who has noticed that they're horrible. Depending on how altruistic I'm feeling I've got a whole spectrum of ways to feel grateful for that experience in my life, and it being long over.


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DALID414 7/19/2013 1:53PM

    Love the funny. For some odd reason the boyfriend didn't find it so funny. emoticon

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